Post # 1
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Newbee
My boyfriend and I are early twenties, and we were “supposed” to be getting engaged this year, but he still isn’t ready. Last night, he surprised me with his high school class ring. I thought it was a sweet gesture, but I also think it’s really strange.
I dated my high school sweetheart on and off grades 7-9, and then on 9-12. He did give me his class ring to wear, but I only knew of one other girl who wore her boyfriend’s ring.
I thought wearing a significant other’s class ring was something done only by high schoolers, but I could be wrong? Sure, I think it’s cute, and I think he really thought he was doing something special. He didn’t really date anyone in high school, so maybe he’s lagging behind a bit?
Is this something younger couples do even after high school? I’m just looking for some perspective on this.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
what did he say when he gave you it?
I can see him using that as a promise ring since you both are younger.
He might not be financially or emotionally ready for an engagement but wanted to give you something to let you know he plans to one day.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I understand promise rings b/c my Fi gave me one but a class ring seems high school-ish even though a lot of people see promise rings the same way.
Post # 5
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Honey bee
Sorry I don’t know much about class rings; hardly anyone I know where I’m from gets them. But maybe if you’re uncomfortable wearing it as a ring you could wear it on a necklace instead.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
I can see why you might feel that way. But if it was a legitimately sincere gesture on his part then you should probably just accept happily. You don’t have to wear it (either on a finger or chain) if you don’t want to.
When my DH gave me a “promise ring” in our senior year of college, it was a heart-shaped CZ ring he probably got in Walmart for $7, and it didn’t even fit. Honestly, it wasn’t my taste, and I was glad he hadn’t spent much money on it. But I was so glad he felt that way and wanted to show me how he felt. I wore it on a chain for a couple weeks, then put it in a jewelry box. I reciprocated by giving him my old high school ring (I hadn’t worn it for at least 2 years) which he still carries on his keychain. A year later, he gave me a pearl ring that I did wear a lot, on my right hand, until he proposed.
Post # 7
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Newbee
It’s not a promise ring-he put it on a chain, and he said he wanted me to have a piece of him close to my heart at all times-its certainly a sweet gesture.
I’m just wondering if I’m going to get odd looks for wearing my boyfriend’s class ring when we are clearly out of high school.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
@April_Mae: That’s really sweet. I don’t know what I’d do. It’s a nice sentiment.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
very sweet- I would think it is odd since you are out of school but it is the thought that counts…. it is from him, who cares what we think 😉
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
It is a little strange since y’all are out of high school, but if I saw someone wearing one on a necklace I wouldn’t think twice about it. I think it’s really sweet:)
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
I have a promise ring. My boyfriend gave it to me in our first year of our relationship (we’re in our early twenties way out of high school). It means a lot to us and we see it as a symbol of our commitment to each other (a pre-marriage commitment) and a memento of our early relationship. I thought it was very sweet. We even chose our engagement ring to match it. 🙂
Post # 12
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Honey bee
I wore my then BF’s high school ring on a chain in high school. I think it’s a sweet gesture!
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
It is a sweet gesture! If it really makes you uncomfortable, you could always wear it underneath a shirt. You could say you’re keeping it even closer to your heart!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Wearing your boyfriend’s class ring was exciting in high school, but I don’t know anyone who kept wearing one (their own or their SO’s) after graduating. It strikes me as weird. But if he meant it as a sweet gesture, then by all means don’t discourage him.
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
I feel like that’s not appropriate past age 18. You’re adults….time for real jewelry!
Post # 16
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Helper bee
I have always wanted to know what a class ring is. Ive seen them in movies. How does it work? We don’t have anything like that in New Zealand.