Post # 1
So the time has finally come that I have to decide on the theme for my wedding with my intended wedding date being a little over a year and a half away. I am from the richer part of the city and always dreamed of having that princess/elegant wedding but my fiancé is from the more rural side of town. He always calls us Beauty and the Redneck. We are on the edge of where to have our reception, either on his parents farm or at the Omni William Penn Hotel (two complete opposites… I know) but I wanted to have the ceremony in St. Paul’s Cathedral. With that being said and going back to why I am writing this… How can I please both of our tastes in weddings without it being too weird. I can’t imagine him wearing the all black tuxedo that I imagined my future husband wearing and he wants to wear jeans with a shirt.
Post # 2
Depending on the weather at that time of year, you can have a beautiful, elegant outdoor wedding or reception. Especially if you save money on renting a venue, you can spend on the tent, florals, etc. I’ve seen outdoor wedding that rival the most beautiful indoor spot. For the groom, maybe you can sell him on a nice vest and tie? My groom is the same way–he said he’d do a tux but that’s just not him. I’d rather he feel comfortable, and he likes the vest look.
Post # 3
This is where the art of compromise comes in. There’s many shades of grey between country club/black tie and outdoor redneck/camo. Talk to him and see what you guys can work out together. I like the idea of having a casual outdoor type wedding with clean lines and decorations and the groom in a vest and slacks. It seems like a good compromise. But seriously, talk to your Fiance. Maybe there’s some things he really cares about (his outfit) but other things he doesn’t (flowers) and you can work within that.
Post # 4
viices : I’d suggest going just a little more relaxed. You can still wear a lovely ball gown if your husband is in a well fitted suit. Pair it with some nice black cowboy boots and maybe even the hat during the reception and he’ll look classy and redneck all at the same time.
My husband, while not being redneck, would never have been at home in a tux, or even a suit. I preferred to just make our wedding relaxed casual than have him spend his day uncomfortably.
Post # 5
It’s about compromise. You compromise on something, he compromises on something and you both compromise on something. Your wedding will have a cohesive theme of you two building a life together, the things that make you both who you are and your life together. Start by working out what your priorities are and what his priorities are. You get three each. It could be that yours are dress, ceremony, photographer and his are his attire, reception and food. In which case you compromise on the food and he compromises on the ceremony. You might both say ceremony so together you work out a happy medium. Everything outside of those priorities is then decided on based on the other priorities, budget or who cares the least.
There are so many themes that people have done and so many variations on the same stuff that nothing in a wedding is weird. If that’s whobyou both are then that’s how you’re wedding will be, don’t fight your own weirdness because there’s someone who would live your weirdness with your partner. Focus on what you both want and how comfortable you both are rather than how well it translates to Pinterest.
Post # 6
Idea: Maybe a play on the stark contrast. Like he says, beauty and the redneck. Have the reception in a barn but hang chandeliers. Have both champagne in fancy glasses and beer in mugs. Let him wear jeans but ask him to wear just the tuxedo jacket or something. You do your full princess bride look but wear cowboy boots. Stuff like that might work.
Post # 7
I think you have gotten some good advice and I cant wait to see how this plays out! Please keep us in the loop in your planning! This wedding will be amazing!!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
Yeah- there’s definitely a balance. We wanted ours to feel like upscale southern glam on a simple budget. We didn’t want it soo nice that some of our guests (country folk) would feel uncomfortable but wanted it nice enough to feel special. I hate burlap so there was none of that but used antique pieces to look classy while having an approachable feel to it.
There were NO jeans- but it wasn’t formal either. We were outside and selected key elements to emphasize. We rented a really nice chandelier to go on the arbor for the ceremony to give it some formality. We had corn hole set out for cocktail hour for guests to enjoy. Determined colors that fit the time of year- but also were nice with the venue.
Find a venue that you two are happy with- that you feel comfortable in. From there it’s easy to dictate style/feel/etc. Just don’t try to make it something it’s not- it always comes out tacky. You can’t make the hotel less glamorous that it is… but it’s usually easier to improve upon a farm (depends on what his looks like). An outdoor wedding on a farm with a giant tent, dance floor, chandeliers or proper lighting can make for a beautiful event. Plus if you do it on their property then you can do the ceremony/reception in one facility and it’s WAY less stressful planning and day of coordination.
Just research country southern glamorous wedding. I’m not sayign there are only weddings like that in the south but some of these country weddings look stunning and there’s still a sense of comfort to it if that makes any sense. This was my favorite site to get ideas from http://southernweddings.com/. Can’t wait to see what you plan! You should have Beauty and the Redneck updates.
Post # 9
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
And like others have said- we had both elements! I put on my cowboy boots after the ceremony (cause they’re comfy and have my Alma Mater on them)… but drank out of our gifted Tiffany champagne flutes. It’s doable.
Post # 10
srancho : I am loving the vest and jeans look, it definitely looks like something that he would be comfortable in