Post # 1
I’m having Texas-style BBQ for the reception inside an airplane hangar. It’s messy! I just can’t picture it on top of china, charger plates and linen napkins. Is it tacky to have Chinet paper plates and high-quality paper napkins? We’ll still have formal table clothes, wine glasses, etc.
Post # 3
We’re doing a BBQ as well, and serving steak and baked potato. I’m having real plates but not china and linen napkins. I can’t quite see it with a charger, though. But are paper napkins and paper plates tacky? No. Sometimes it’s practical. It’s only tacky if you let it be.
Post # 4
I am also doing BBQ and we haven’t decided on plates or cutlery (most likely will use clear acrylic plates, etc). I know for sure that I am personalizing high-quality paper napkins with stamps and pigment inks. Am also considering making bibs and having them laid out at all the place settings. My friends and family are super laid back theatre folk and I am sure we will get gobs of great photos of them with ribs n’ bibs.
Post # 5
I think you should go for real plates (but not china) with the nice paper napkins. I think the paper napkins are smart, and aren’t that noticably different from the linen. The plates, however, should at least be real plates to keep the formality up a little. After all, at a nice BBQ restaurant, they use real plates!
Post # 6
If you want paper plates then do that. When you go to a bbq restaurant, they serve you on china (not formal but average white dinner plates) with paper towels. Is that weird at all? No. So using regular dinner plates is fine if you choose to go that route. Either is fine but paper plates and formal tablecloths don’t mix. Plus, bbq can be eaten with a fork and knife and isn’t that messy unless you are eating with your hands only.
Post # 7
Were doing Tx style BBQ in Tx! We are using the dishes from the B&B where we are having the reception/wedding. I opted out of fine china just because I don’t think the two really go together!
Post # 8
There are so many cute designer paper napkins out there, I really don’t think it matters if you don’t do cloth napkins. I agree with the other posters that you should do real plates and cutlery but not because I find paper plates tacky but because it’s just more comfortable for people. If I’m sitting down to eat a meal with other people, I’d just rather it be on a real plate with real cutlery. If you keep things colourful but simple, you can achieve a BBQ look that’s still got some style. My wedding was a BBQ reception at my Mum’s house and I got lots of compliments on taking that approach with the decor. Sometimes I wish we’d done more, but that’s only because I read wedding blogs….normal people’s expectations are lower!!:-)
Post # 9
I will be having a BBQ reception next September. At our local party store you can purchase plastic ware that looks just like Silver ware. I love it! I want it to be casual but classy! Paper napkins aren’t cheesy, think of looking on Ebay for personalized napkins.
Post # 10
I am another BBQ bride! As of now we are plates and silverware from the catering company — and i am actually making cloth napkins w/ my mom… a whole adventure we just started this week (especially since I am doing a diy stencil). Anyway – I think that Chinet is great! i don’t think people will remember that they are eating on chinet w/ amazing BBQ on their lips! The local BBQ place (that is actually catering) has that paper towel roll on the table. I think that if you did this w/ a good-looking holder – it would be great. I am going to include wipes in some way — i haven’t figured it out yet but i might do an individually packaged one at the place setting & then some in a basket near the bar(???)
@lishabelle22 i am envious of your vintage plates. I had my heart set on this… and still might come back to it, but was discouraged after seeing prices at fleamarkets and yard sales. We will have approx. 150. Do you mind me asking where you are getting it from & if you are paying a fortune?
Post # 11
@vanillabean: LOVE your handmade cloth napkins! i wanted to do that so badly but my husband is in the army and we’re stationed overseas and dont have the time/resources to do it now 🙁 the vintage china took quite a while to collect, i wont lie but we did finish in time. we collected two sizes, one large dinner plate size for the meal and then another smaller size (bigger than a saucer but smaller than a salad plate) for cake. we looked around at every single thrift store type place we came across in alabama, tennessee, and florida and passed up a lot of pretty plates if they were overpriced. in the beginning, we were able to be really strict with our prices and wouldnt pay more than 20 cents for small plates and no more than like 40 cents for the big ones, but as time wound down we started getting nervous and got a little weak, generally spending around 60-70 cents per plate (big ones). the small plates were so easy to find, we got enough of those in about half the time it took us to get the big ones. i think we were a little lucky being from the southeast, where antique/thrift stores run rampant, i had my bridesmaids in california on the lookout too and they were SO much more expensive for the exact same china designs i’d found in alabama. literally like $3 for a plate i paid 30 cents for…