(Closed) Clever entree selection on RSVP not so clever

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you know to write your initials if it said "please initial an entree choice for each guest?"

    Yes, I can read.

    Nope, it sounds confusing.

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    When people see a space they automatically think of putting an X mark or check mark. I nearly made the same mistake for my friends wedding. Also the reason why people get confused is that if there is one RSVP card for a couple, then is hard to fit both initials in one space [if both of them want the same entree choice] so people just assume they should either just putthe number of people or put an X mark

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    @bells:oooh! that makes so much sense! Hm, now, I wonder if there is a better way to solve this issue without making *individual* cards for each person! (or at least a different card for every different # of people invited…)

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It is/was confusing to me. The instruction is not very clear. Maybe say something along the lines of: “Would each guest please kindly write their initials in front of the entree that they wish to have.”

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Doh. I might have done that on a friend’s RSVP. I was chatting with him the night before his wedding and he mentioned that they weren’t sure which one of us wanted chicken/steak the next day. It worked out fine but it just occurred to me they must have had one of those RSVP cards and I just put 2 check marks, which is why he said that. So I guess I’m proof that some folks will just breeze over the card…*turns red*

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I can read, but some people aren’t capable of basic reading comprehension, lol. I don’t see how much clearer you could make it. I also agree that people tend to skim the RSVPs, thinking they already know what is required of them.

    Sorry that it’s frustrating, I did the same thing, I guess I should expect similar results!

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I was hoping to have people write their names but some did, some didn’t…I’m thinking possibly the best way to encourage them to do so is to leave large blank next to each entree.  That way a simple check mark looks wimpy and it might make them think to actually write their name or initials.  Too late for me, but any thoughts for future brides if this would be a good idea?

    Post # 23
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    People are born with RSVP inept genes. I’m convinced of it.

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We did the same thing for the RSVP and about 30% of people did it wrong. We are just deciding who gets what meal and then they can trade or just deal with it because they couldn’t follow simple instructions!

    Post # 25
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    That sounds pretty clear to me.  However there are some people who are completely incapable of following even the simplest directs.  Most of these people are men.  So yes to them it might be confusing.  

    We did the same thing except worded it, “Please initial next to your prefered meal choice.”  So far no confusion.  Everyone is initialing.  The only non initialers are couples who are getting the same entree.  They’ve just put “2” next to the entree choice.

    Post # 26
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    @ahavah:oh I like that idea! I just modified my invitations that will be sent to the printer soon, and I agree! It looks a little more awkward to just put a check mark next to it!

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have the same wording for my rsvp card!!! Seems pretty clear to me and about half my guests so far have not put initials. I think because using the intials is not the norm and guests just glance over it.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It’s not confusing.  People just ignore instructions.

    There are actually studies on this.  People will assume they know what to do and not pay attention to what’s in writing.  

    Our guests were actually pretty good, but it probably helped that so many were pilots and used to following directions to the letter.

    So us brides are left either 1) only offering one entree 2) having buffets or 3) contacting everyone to see what they wanted.

    Post # 29
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ve filled out RSVP cards like this before. It makes perfect sense to me.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’m hoping my guests do okay with this; we’re doing “Please initial each guest’s entree choice” with little pictures (a chicken, a fish) and lines for the initials…

    Sounds like I might be making a lot of phone calls; boo!

    Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @red_rose: glad to help!

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