Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I don’t even know where to start; I just know I’m super confused and upset.
DH and I were blessed with a beautiful baby girl the beginning of this year (1/1 to be exact!). We decided we wanted to have a second child close in age and were given the okay by my doctor to start trying after six months. We tried in July and no go. We tried again in August and like a mad women I started testing 10 dpo (or at least what I thought was my o date as I was using OPKs). I was getting all BFNs. Finally I decided to call my doctor monday as at that point I was 10 days late and still get BFNs.
((I want to stress that after a lot of soul searching, we are no longer in a rush to get pregnant again. We both feel so lucky just to have our daughter that we will gladly celebrate a second baby but we will not be phased if it doesn’t))
Anywho, I got a phone call yesterday to come in for bloodwork and was told my results would come back Friday. Call me naive but even though I didn’t really believe I would have to wait until Friday and I knew I had a ton of questions regardless of the bloodwork, I was still shocked to get a phone call today and couldn’t even spew questions. I just kind of accepted what was being thrown at me.
My doctor told me my test came back negative for pregnancy (okay so far!). But then he says my hormones are out of whack and he wants to start me on progesterone to force a period (ok??). Then he wants me to start on clomid to force ovulation-and this is where I break down. It sounds crazy to me to start meds for fertility when we’ve only been trying for two months. With my first we had no trouble conceiving and I know we are so so lucky but my point is I just don’t see us as having fertility issues. he also may have said I have polycystic syndrome but I was already upset and not paying enough attention as I should have -__-
I’ve since left a message at my doctors office and I’m now ready with a laundry list of questions. But in the meantime i needed to vent and get opinions from anyone who has used progesterone or clomid! I don’t know if he’s just being overeager and starting me on clomid bc he thinks I’m desperate to be pregnant again or if there is a legitimate concern. I also don’t know if I should repeat and stress to him I’m not rushing to have more babies? Finally, I don’t want multiples! I couldn’t handle twins 😐
any words of wisdom or advice would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 2
Hmmm that sounds kind of crazy after only 2 months TTC and so soon after baby #1. I’m 10 months PP and I’m just starting to get my first period. I’d be getting a second opinion.
Post # 3
Get your doctor to answer all the questions you have, reiterate that fact that you and your DH are no longer actively trying, and then get a 2nd opinion.
I suffer with PCOS and do NOT ovulate. Medication is needed. I did however do a super clean up on my diet and added supplements. These have helped with the PCOS symptoms, but did nothing for me in terms of getting ovulation going. But I’ve been diagnosed with PCOS a long time ago & was warned about fertility issues.
Just don’t go ahead with anything you’re not comfortable with. It’s good you have started on some research, just don’t get yourself worked up about some of the stuff you may read on the internet.
Best of Luck!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
I have no advice, but please question everything. Don’t feel like you have to do what one doctor says. You could always seek a second opinion. Remember it’s your body and you decide what to do with it. It breaks my heart to see people do crazy things when it’s not always needed. It’s like giving a kid candy to shut their mouth. You certainly can get pregnant, and it might just a take a little while more. Best of luck.
Post # 5
I guess be thankful that you have a doctor willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen for you, but it’s totally your choice how long you wait to give your body a chance to self-regulate. If it were me, I wouldn’t take such drastic measures so quickly.
Post # 6
Are you bf’ing at all? Post partum hormones are notorious for being all over the place and even more so if you’re nursing.
you don’t need to do anything you’re not comfortable with so there’s no need to rush the meds if you’re happy waiting!
Post # 7
Is it not possible that since you are only 8 months postpartum your hormones could still be out of whack???
Several of my friends didn’t see AF until 8+ months postpartum and I’m quite sure hormones take time to regulate as well.
I’d seek clarification from your doc and/or a second opinion as well. As long as you are not in a rush, as you stated, it may still be very possible to see a pregnancy without any interventions.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
thank you ladies for your responses!!! I am happy to report I received a phone call from my doctor today and am feeling SO much better about everything. he explained i should take the progesterone to jump start my period but i dont have to take the clomid. as i had hoped, he had only suggested the clomid as he thought i was rushing to get pregnant. he said it was my choice if/when i wanted to take clomid depending on my personal timeline. he also said he cannot say conclusively whether i have polycystic syndrome or a hormonal imbalance as there would need to be more bloodwork. finally, he did give me a timeline as to how to proceed if next month i encounter the same issues.
again, i am so thankful for the all the bees here who encouraged me to speak up! so thankful for you all allowing me to vent xoxoxo
that is the crazy thing! About two months after DD, i got my first period and then went on birth control. since then i’ve had very normal periods. we went off birth control two months ago and last month even off birth control, i still had a normal period. thats why i was so confused as to why he wanted to start me on clomid, its not like ive been missing a period since i gave birth.
i’m not breastfeeding but i’ve totally heard that before, i wouldve been so much less freaked out about my period this month if i was :S