(Closed) Close friend did not acknowledge wedding anniversary

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
7865 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If my best friend posted about her anniversary on Instagram and I happened to see the post, then yeah, I’d take a couple seconds to shoot her a quick “happy anniversary!” text. I think that’s pretty normal behavior! BUT…I do not keep track of my friends’ anniversaries, so unless I happened to see the post, I wouldn’t think to say anything. I really doubt this was malicious. 

Post # 17
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Me and my fiancé forgot our own anniversary this year 🤷🏻‍♀️ It was five years too! 

Post # 18
102 posts
Blushing bee

Shit. Is this aimed at me? Just realised it’s one of my best friend’s anniversary….I’ll pop her a message. 

If you get a message in the next few minutes, then we know this message was aimed at me. Haha

Post # 19
3362 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I only remember one friend’s anniversary and it’s only because it’s the day before mine. I couldn’t tell you when any of my other friends got married. It’s just not something we think about and it certainly isn’t a reflection of our friendship. 

Post # 20
11774 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I pay attention and acknowledge the anniversaries of our parents, our siblings, and ourselves, and that’s it. If I happen to see something posted by friends on social media I’ll take the two seconds to acknowledge, but don’t otherwise keep track the way I do for birthdays.

We don’t post publicly about our own anniversary or expect even close friends to remember the date unless I happen to say something like “we’re celebrating our anniversary this weekend.” 

I think your standards are uncommon and unrealistic. 

Post # 21
6314 posts
Bee Keeper

I do not keep track of friends’ wedding anniversaries or stalk social media enough to catch every friend’s posts every day. I would not expect anyone but my husband to remember or acknowledge my anniversary and would never question a friendship over something like this. 

Post # 22
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Like you said it’s not a huge deal, so don’t make it out to be. Like other pp’s said maybe she didn’t even she that you posted it. Let it go is it really that important for it to bother you?

Post # 23
213 posts
Helper bee

It’s not that deep. She might’ve not seen your posts, also it’s YOUR anniversary, not hers, why should she have to keep tabs on it? Are you expecting congrats every year? This isn’t a reason to be petty or pissy.

Post # 24
1527 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018


Post # 25
3531 posts
Sugar bee

Other people remembering and acknowledging and caring about your anniversary is NOT a thing. 

Post # 26
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

sassyshid07 :  Maybe she saw your post, meant to say something, got caught up in stuff and totally forgot? That happens to me all the time. 

Maybe there’s a bigger issue that’s bothering you about this friendship and that’s why something so tiny is bothering you this much? 

Post # 27
6428 posts
Bee Keeper

This is not an issue.  Stop making a bigger deal out of something that is nothing.

Post # 28
9324 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I do not know a single person’s anniversary other than my own, and frankly I don’t care. 

This is crazy.

Post # 29
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

sassyshid07 :  I don’t even remember my anniversary let alone others’ 😂 Last month was our first anniversary and I didn’t even remember it until my mom wished me. I don’t wish my friends for anything except birthdays.

As others have mentioned, she probably didn’t even see it. Even if she did, maybe it’s just not something she thinks she needs to do or you want her to do. 

Post # 30
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

Agreed. Damn. I can barely even remember MY wedding date. Someone else’s is not even on my radar. If they post something about it and I happen to be on social media at the time. I might like the post. But since I’m usually only on once every few months or so I would probably never see it. 

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