(Closed) close friend just got engaged yesterday…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
491 posts
Helper bee

First, see if she is still considering September, which should be easy enough at a wedding expo. 

Just tell her you are really excited to be part of her wedding, but you realized you don’t have as much time as you origionally though and might not be as helpful as you should be as Maid/Matron of Honor. Say you’ll help as much as you can but really can’t be making any huge commitments and that you won’t even really be available until Mid-August. 

Post # 5
1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Some brides are less needy than others–it could be that she’s going to be fairly independent and will be happy for you to do what you can

Post # 6
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I think it’s okay to wait until after the expo, since it’s next weekend. If she still sounds gung-ho on September, ask her about her expectations for you. You want to help her out and be there, but since your wedding and reception are so close, you’re concerned that you may not be able to give her as much attention as she deserves, and that maybe it would be best for you to be a regular bridesmaid. Would that be okay with you?

  It does boil down to her expectations. All but one of my bridesmaids live out of town, so I’m doing a lot on my own. Mine are basically just expected to show up for the rehearsal dinner and wedding. Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

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