(Closed) Close friends getting engaged at the same time?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Newbee

When my daughter got engaged on Christmas Eve, she was the only one of her friends at that stage of a relationship.  Two months later, one of the groomsmen proposed to his girlfriend and set their wedding date for a month earlier than my daughter and her fiance.  The two couples both attend our church so they had a lot of overlap with shower and wedding guests who were mutual friends, but it seemed to work out OK.  The other couple’s wedding and reception was quite different from what my daughter was planning, so she didn’t feel upstaged at all.  By the time her day arrived, two more of her friends had gotten engaged and were lots of fun to have around for the times when we packed the favor boxes, worked on decorations, and had the bachelorette party.  Now, a year later, I’m helping both of these girls prepare for their upcoming weddings by sewing their bridesmaid dresses.  I hope they each enjoy their special day to the fullest, like my daughter and her husband did.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have a friend who got engaged last year, but will be getting married next August. I will (if everything goes as planned) get married next summer end of June/early July. SO has 4 cousins who are in serious 4+ year relationships, with 1 engaged. Any of the other ones could happen at any time.

One of my friends from school is in the same waiting stage as I am. she’s hoping for it to happen this summer too 🙂 I’d be happy if it did!

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My best friend and I got engaged six weeks apart and our weddings are six days apart.  Honestly we haven’t discussed in depth her feelings on the proximity of our wedding dates, but she seems to really be okay with it.  I’m excited because we’ve been best friends for almost 20 years and to be able to share all of the excitement and fun with my hetero life-mate (Jay & Silent Bob reference) is just amazing.  I love that we have such similar wedding ideas too; it makes the planning process that much easier to have someone helping me creatively.  When we first sat down to discuss our weddings we had even picked out the same color scheme haha but I changed mine a bit so now we at least have one color that is different.  Our family is the only overlap so it doesn’t really matter either, but I’m overall quite thrilled to have my best friend by my side in all of this!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I haven’t experienced this, but I think it would be really fun to be able to plan with my BFF.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

one of my really close friends got engaged today. I’m expecting to be engaged in the next month or 2. It’s kinda of irking me that we’ll be engaged so close. I hope all of you are right in that its really fun, because I’m worried I wont be happy about it lol I always feel like my thunder is stolen. We have the same circle of friends. What if they cant be bridesmaids in 2 weddings? I think our weddings would at least be almost a year apart, so maybe that would make it better. I’ve just been waiting on this proposal for SOOO long & she just met her fiance 8 months ago, I was hoping to be in the spotlight. All of my close engaged friends just finished getting married last weekend. I was hoping it was going to be my turn to shine. Gah i sound like a brat. I just cant get over them being engaged. I need to suck it up though bc we do hang out all the time & we are really close. I have a bad habit of being passive aggressive too lol I gotta fix that, asap!

Post # 38
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Busy bee

It’s a mixed bag. A few friends of mine, I would be cool with getting engaged around me because we’re supportive of each other. Some other friends are self centred drama queens who would take advantage of my giving nature and make everything about themselves.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee

 

@mscuppycake:  So its more like close family getting engaged INSTEAD of close friends in my case.  My boyfriend’s youngest brother got a ring and wanted to propose to his long time girlfriend….which got me excited because I thought ‘thank goodness now it’s going to happen soon for me too’ lol.

Then, the oldest brother who was dating his gf the least amount of time between myself and the other brother and his gf (can you keep up? its confusing lol), PROPOSED. Completely stole the engagement last year lol from the youngest brother.  ANYWAY, now they are set to get married this month, and I know that the youngest brother will be proposing after the marriage later this year……..which means that my engagement probably won’t be coming until AFTER they get married.  I think the brother’s all want their turn in the spotlight and want their women to have their moment too.

With that said…If it were up to me, heck, I want to get engaged/married RIGHT NOW.  So I suppose the question I have for you is, what is worse?  Having to share your moment with someone, or having to wait just so that you can have your very own moment?  I wouldn’t mind sharing but perhaps that is because I know its going to be so much longer for me to get married now at this point lol.  

Good Luck and CONGRATS 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@pocketfox:  This. Having said that, I think at this stage of my life I’m more discerning about the kinds of friends I keep. I definitely know girls who would make their engagement/wedding the centre of the universe, but I’m happy to say that none of them are my close friends. 

I have two girlfriends also engaged right now, and another who is likely to get engaged later this month. I went dress shopping with one (she’s getting married about six months before me) and the other lives in another country so we’ve just been exchanging emails and the such. The last one actually lives very close to me and is a close friend. She’s been waiting for him to pop the question for a long time, so I am a little apprehensive about the post-engagement behaviour…I am optimistic that she won’t go bridezilla on me though! She’s been really interested and supportive of my wedding planning, dress journey etc – so I am hoping I can do the same for her.

Post # 41
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Busy bee

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@peonyinparis: Distancing is definitely a good thing. For the entitled princesses on my side, I’ve been able to sort of distance from friend to acquaintance (can’t completely cut them out as we have mutual friends who I really get along with and it would get awkward). Unfortunately, the worst of the entitled princesses (although I should say prince) is one of SO’s best friends from high school. He’s just of the belief that he should do everything first and/or better than his high school friends. SO doesn’t really care about it, and is really laid back so it doesn’t matter that this guy is like this to him.

Post # 42
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Honey bee

@mscuppycake:  I got engaged a few days after my cousin and shortly two other friends. Then 2 months later, one our groomsmen got engaged. As a result, we are attending 5 weddings this summer (including our own)! I think it’s fine and it doesn’t bother me at all. Our wedding will be the last one this summer, so it is actually nice to see what others do for ideas. 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Me and my best friend planned our weddings at the same time, ended up getting married about 3 months apart and IT WAS AWESOME!!!! Our styles are different so it wasn’t like I worried that we’d end up having carbon copy weddings with similar guest lists, instead it was great to have someone else going through the same stuff and in a similar place in life.  My sister got engaged a few weeks after my wedding–I told her and her Fiance that I didn’t want them waiting to get engaged just because I was getting married (plenty of love to go around!) but they waited anyway.

Post # 44
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Worker bee

My brother is getting married in September and my timeline is the end of the year/after that happens. I’m excited for his wedding because I LOVE my future sister in law but also because when it’s all over I know my turn is coming.

Based on the current timeline,  I’ll be planning around the same time as two other good friends….possibly three and I think it’ll be great.  

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