- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Sorry you’re having such sad responses to your save the dates, but I don’t think responses to save the dates are actually the norm. At least, I’ve never heard of one having to reply to an STD.
Yeah, I’ve never responded to a Save the Date…
i don’t think anyone really ‘replied’ to our save-the-date.
maybe the occasional ‘hey, i got your card in the mail; love it!’
but we didn’t know who was coming/not coming until we sent out our invitations.
Are you sure you didn’t send RSVPS? they’re different than Save the Dates.
ETA: What is “Super cheap” tickets to you? “Super cheap” is 100 bucks. But not everyone can swing 100 bucks, especially someone on unemployment.
Save the dates are meant to just be a general head’s up for people. An invitation to the event begs a response; a save the date does not.
I don’t know what kind of response people have to give in save the date. Some of the things like that couple asking who is coming, I wouldn’t respond to them.
As for the other things, I think you need to get some perspective. Your comments are incredible insensitive, he isn’t working and he should not be spending moneys on extra. Furthermore Peoples life doesn’t revolved around your wedding. Get your expectations in line, and remember to look at the BIG PICTURE. Sulk if you need to, then let it go so you enjoy your wedding planning and wedding. Good luck!
But honey…it’s a destination wedding and the economy sucks….and when you plan a destination wedding, you make some sacrifices and allowances regarding guest list and attendance, because for you, the location is paramount….and that is wonderful. You will have a lovely wedding with all of the people who were supposed to be there in attendance, I promise.
In times like these, everyone has got to keep their eye on the bottom line, and personally, it would take some pretty desirable circumstances to inspire me to use money allocated to our vacation fund for a destination wedding, because we get ONE vacation a year, I would be hard pressed to put that relaxing retreat with Mr. 99 on the back burner to have my time and attention dictated by a bride & groom.
You just wait until you send your invitations, that’s when the responses will come, and you’ll be so excited and surprised by the people that can make it, and maybe a little sad by the ones that cannot, but I cannot stress enough, their declining to attend is no reflection on their desire to be there, but an inability to make the trek either financially or logistically.
It’ll get better!
Whats in his bank account (unemployed or not) isn’t really any of your business. I’m sorry you’re having a difficult time but most of us, like it or not, have had to realize that our wedding isn’t as important to others as you think it is. I think you need to focus on the positive instead of the negative.
But if it’s more of a lump sum, I can see not being able to make it work. I’m unemployed right now and I have to decline a lot of things because my future is so uncertain. Not only is money uncertain, but I also don’t book trips right now because if I get a job, I don’t want to say, “Hey, I’m taking off two days almost immediately for a wedding.”
And it actually is really awful declining activities because I’m poor so I feel for your friend. Anyway, you’ll still get married that day, right?? That’s all that matters!
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