Post # 1
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Busy bee
Bees,
I have hundreds of family and friends. I made a decision to have a small wedding, to keep things easier for me. I’m happy with my decision. It has been a few months, and people are starting to find out. I try to communicate with my friends and let them know that it is small. I know I have to be strong and stand by this. I don’t want to hurt my friends, but I know that I would not be offended to not be invited to a friend’s wedding. I know not everyone will understand.
I’m doing my best to stay firm. The guest list is closed. No matter what, I will enjoy being married to my love with a selection of family and friends (yes, I did only invite some of both). Feeling very supported by Fiance and parents. Now, I just need to be strong for myself.
Saying again and again.. this is the wedding I have wanted… this is the wedding I have wanted.
*clicks heels*
Can any bees relate?
Post # 2
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2663 posts
Sugar bee
cruisinbee: I can relate as can a whole host of other bees without a doubt! You’re right, it’s your wedding and you do whatever it is you need to do to make it the day you envision. If you falter your resolve you will regret it. There’s no going back once you start changing your mind and giving into pressure so just stand strong. You will have a fantastic wedding day with no regrets!
Post # 3
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963 posts
Busy bee
howdoyoudo: Thank you!! Yes, no regrets!!! And wouldn’t it be awesome for people to understand just how stressful this is, and that it isn’t about them at all? I know, not at all under my control.
Post # 4
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2663 posts
Sugar bee
cruisinbee: I do wish people didn’t think it vital to share every opinion they’ve ever had completely unsolicited. But they do.
You get those who are unmarried and therefore have ridiculous notions in mind who have no clue about planning and paying for a real wedding. Then there are those who have married and promptly forget the hellish stress of trying to please everyone but yourself and then they tell you everything you’re doing wrong because, well they spent thousands on things THEY didn’t want so why shouldn’t you? It’s the done thing right?
If only people could appreciate that there’s no right or wrong way of planning a wedding. So long as the couple are wed at the end of the day then it’s been done correctly, the rest is just fun pomp!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
You are doing what’s best for you and your partner! It’s important that you two don’t lose sight of that throughout the wedding planning!
We planned a big church wedding and reception in a year or two, and a “intimate” civil ceremony followed by dinner this year (we can wait to throw a party, but we can’t wait to get married!). With my side alone being at 30+ – my parents and their siblings and families – it just didn’t make any sense the stress level we were having planning for a small (*eye roll*) wedding. At the end, we planned on a nice all inclusive chapel, followed by dinner at a fancy restaurant in town for 15 people – just our grandparents, parents, and siblings. And we can’t wait!
Good luck, Bee <3
Post # 6
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963 posts
Busy bee
meandmrbee15: Congrats on doing what makes sense for you! I think your plans are beautiful!
Post # 7
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648 posts
Busy bee
Darling Husband and I were planning a wedding, 200 ppl, 2000km away from our home. AHHHHH
We decided , together, one day that EFF THAT. We cancelled our big wedding reservations, got back most of our deposits and cut the guest list down to 50 ppl, including our 2 photographers.
Day of, we had a total of 43 ppl including ourselves and it was perfect. it was HARD people who wanted invites, but didnt get them. I have 45 ppl in my extended family alone who were not invited. TOUGH. but it was about us, and that was it! LOVED IT
Post # 8
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Busy bee
Scou: nice!!!! Its so funny, but many of us are actually happier with a smaller, more intimate crowd.
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