Post # 1
So FI and I both have a problem, we both like clothes. Nothing makes me happier than finding a cute new top, or a nice pair of pants, especially when they’re on sale. I have a feeling it’s only going to get worse soon. But it creates a second problem: closet space wars. In our bedroom closet/dresses FI has about 3/4 of the closet, 1 full dresser and drawer in the second dresser. Meanwhile my clothes are scattered all over the house, some in the spare bedroom closet and dresser and some in a pole we have in our laundry room. I’m constantly frustrated because I can never find the clothes I want!
I don’t really think it’s fair that he gets to keep most of his clothes upstairs, but FI justifies it by saying I have more clothes than he does (I would actually argue that we either have about the same amount of clothes or he has more, but that’s besides the point). I’m just wondering how other bees divide up closet/dresser space.
Post # 3
I don’t know where you are from but I have two words… “Spacesaver Bags” I was in a constant closet space battle until my mother bought me a bunch of space saver storage bags (the vaccuumable kind) and I have two ‘seasons’ of clothes. This time of year all of my puffy vests and wool and fleece are packed away in to about 5 space saver bags, 5 bags fits in to one tote in the hall closet leaving my side of the closet free for all the cute summer outfits.
We have two closets, its a ‘his and hers’ at the moment only his closet is also entirely full with climbing and camping gear so his clothes also take up the entire dresser. hence the importance of the bags.
Post # 4
@futuremrste: I own the closet. Meaning I do all laundry and put everything away (he has other chores don’t worry I’m not a slave). So I choose where everything goes. It started out 50/50 and regularly gets adjusted as I see fit. So currently he has 2/3 of the closet but only half of the drawers. I also give him all the shelves that are high because he is tall and I’m not. I would have both of you take all of your clothes out of the closets and the drawers and both of you put them away at the same time. Divide up the areas as you go (but keep it 50/50 until you realize one of you has more stuff than the other). Also be honest. I have my prom dress and many formal dresses, but we keep them in the spare closet because they aren’t going to get worn often. Same with FI’s suits. We also have a lot of FI’s clothes that don’t fit at the moment (he fluctuates and it doesn’t make sense to throw clothes out if he will probably fit in them again soon) and those are stored in bins under the bed. And all of our shoes are by the front door.
Oh and if you have as many clothes as us, I would set a whole day aside for this task. Also decide where laundry goes. I suspect you moved in with him since he has more of the prime realestate, which isn’t fair. By the end of it the closet should only contain things you wear often (not halloween costumes ect.) and should mostly represent who owns the most stuff.
Post # 5
@asscherlover: I did move in with him and I’ve been slowly taking over prime real estate in our bedroom, but the whole cleaning out our closets would be a good idea! FI does have a bunch of suits in our closet that he hardly ever wears anymore (he used to have to wear a suit at his old job, but not at his new job. I actually wish he wore suits more often because he looks sooooooo amazing in a suit! On the odd day where he does have to wear a suit to work, I don’t want to let him go to work, I just want him to stay home and take the suit off!)
Post # 6
@futuremrste: I suspected as much. When I moved in with FI for a few months two summers ago I had very little closet space. But once we moved together last year (I was in the dorms in between because of stupid school requirements) I took all of his stuff out of the closet (I was away for the summer so he lived there for a couple weeks before me) and then put it away where I wanted it. (Which included sorting it by type and color because I’m a lil OCD about clothes.) He does get annoyed that I still move things around constantly, but not annoyed enough to start doing his own laundry.