Post # 1
I have drafted a guest list. I’ve given it to FH to review – including all the people I figured he would want to invite. He has not added or removed anyone. When I ask if his guest list is final he says he hasn’t thought about it. When do I give him a drop dead date? Does it matter if we add people after the STD’s (I really doubt his guy friends are going to be comparing who got one and who didn’t…) or mail a second batch later if he decides to add someone? Help me bees!
Post # 3
It doesn’t matter for STD. Send them only to the people you KNOW you will be inviting. If more people are added later, you can send a STD or just wait and send an invitation.
Post # 4
We ended up “closing” our guestlist once we reached a certain amount of people invited. We are totally over what we wanted to go over so I HAD to close it a few weeks ago or he would have kept adding people.
Post # 5
Just send the STDs to the people definitely invited. I’ve asked my FMIL for their guest list since January and still don’t have it. I’m sending out STDs next month with or without her list.
Post # 6
We set ours before sending STDs and only added one more after those went out. I always left it open if anyone wanted to add more as we went, but no one ever did. Once the invites went out, then it was closed.
Post # 7
I dont really see the point of an std so if i didnt get one it wouldnt bother me. Besides, if theyre getting an invitation anyways…..does it matter?
Post # 8
We closed our guestlist last summer. We had people try to make additions with WEEKS to the wedding, and we said absolutely not, the guest list is and has been final for months. End of story.
Post # 9
You can always add to the list, but once the STDs go out, there’s no taking people off the list!
Post # 10
@jaijaig88: our wedding is semi destination. Its local for us but not for 75% of our guests. We want to give them ample time to plan and make travel arrangements. We don’t have the schedule of the day nailed down yet (ie; what time the ceremony will start) so we can’t send invites (and it’s way too early for that). I’m doing my best to be a very courteous host and giving my guests ample time to plan and budget and make things comfortable for them.
Post # 11
@MsGinkgo: Ok. Im kind of in the same boat. Our wedding will be in my hometown, but luckily bf/fi is only inviting family. so word of mouth works for us.
Although since the majority of your guests are out of town, I think sending them later works. I mean whose going to compare when they got stds!