(Closed) Clubbing with hubby?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

On the one hand, at least he is trying to get you to go with him, instead of going out with these other hooligans.  He isn’t doing anything behind your back, or being sketchy at all, so that’s good.

On the other hand, it’s a teeny-bopper club.  I’d be annoyed too :/

I guess what I would do is go, try to have a little fun, but talk beforehand about how long you’ll stay or if you have a particular word/phrase/look/kick to the shin to indicate when you’re ready to leave.

Don’t be the fun police!  Go dance on a bar 😛

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@texasbee:    Hi girl!  ((hugs))

I’m sure you’re still loads of fun! 

By no means are either of you too old for clubbing.  My Fiance and I are older than both of you (I’m 44, he’s 49 with b-days coming up soon) and we go out almost every weekend.  Of course here in the States we don’t have the “teen” issue because our legal age is 21.  But we see people our age and older everywhere we go.  In Raleigh, NC the clubs get a good mix of age ranges, from 20’s to 60’s, and everyone seems to mix in fine and get along great, although the younger people outnumber us by far.  But lots of times we get compliments about how cool we are to be out amongst the younger crowd, lol. 

At any rate, there’s nothing wrong with having fun if you both agree and compromise on what you enjoy doing.  If your Darling Husband wants to go clubbing and he wants you to go with him, isn’t it worth giving it a shot and see if you have fun?  Make a deal that you get to choose the next outing that would be more fun for you.  Relationships are about making both people happy.  😉

Edit:  Both my Fiance and myself get mistaken for being in our 30’s all the time; we never enlighten anyone, though, haha!  We like looking young for our ages.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

How often does he want you to go?

I try to do things I don’t necessarily love occasionally if they make my husband happy (and aren’t completely unreasonable), and he does the same. If he just wants to go once in a while, I see a compromise happening. If he wanted to go every night, I’d be more resistant.

+1 to him for including you instead of going out to a sketchball club with the younger guys alone!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@texasbee:  Go with him. The alternative is to stay home and worry that he thinks you’re not fun. Which is not fun. Go, drink and dance and who gives a crap who else is there?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re still fun! I think it’s good that he wants you to go with him. Maybe try encouraging him to find a pastime that he enjoys to do with male friends? Darling Husband golfs and I always encourage him to go out and have fun with the guys. He’s good about finding a balance between friends and home.

I sometimes worry, too, that we are becoming ‘boring or too traditional. We used to be really social when we first started dating but lately have been kind of stuck with staying in, ordering in, renting movies, etc…I’ve tried pushing us to go out more to places that are our age like wing nights, trivia nights, drinks at our local pub, etc (no clubbing for this girl). Last week Darling Husband wanted to go to wing night at 6:30 to “beat the crowd” – I LOLed forever then told him we need to get a life! Hahaha. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not into the club scene anymore either, but at least hubs is asking you to come with! I say suck it up and go with him, that is what I would do 🙂 It’s great that he is willing to communicate and tell you what he needs!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@missbeachbum:  That made me LOL. It seems these days when we go out to eat or do something, we get home at the time people our age would be going out.

I’d say go with Darling Husband to the club. It is not like he wants to go every weekend. But then maybe the weekend after you could do one of the things you want to like sightseeing. Also have a signal, so that if one of you is having a terrible time, or is super tired because it is so late then you can go home.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Go and have fun. Unless you are going to a place only frequented by Americans you won’t be old at all. Yes, there will be some schüler but I can imagine your music taste is different which should week out most of the teens by location choice alone. If you reallyare wiorried about the age differnce, look for a Ü30 night and you will certainly be young!  I think clubbing is a bit different in Europe than the US since clubs are open longer and an accepted part of a social life earlier they are more diverse in general. Europeans also tend to binge drink less out of necessity in order to make it until 5am so early on you should not run into to many crazy drunks. 

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