Post # 1
Fiance and I are seriously considering a Destination Wedding. My biggest concern is our close family (our total of 5 siblings plus their SOs and our parents) and making sure everyone would be able to afford to come. I have not a CLUE where to even start looking at doing a Destination Wedding, but one of the main things I’m wondering is how renting a villa would work. What is peak for weddings here is off-peak when it comes to renting places down there (down there meaning the Carribean and the like). We’re looking at possibly renting a villa in order to have our family come. So how would this work? Is this even a legit possiblity? I know his family would have a total of 9 adults (he has 6 neices and nephews, any advice on kids with a DW?) and mine has just 4 adults and any aunts/uncles/cousins that may want to come. How did/do you manage with paying for direct family’s accomodations but maybe not more extended famiy’s accomodations? What about friends who are willing to travel? What about renting two villas, one for his family and one for mine? Does that sound like something that would work? Where do you hold the ceremony if you do this?
Any other advice or resources would be awesome. Like I said, I’m COMPLETELY clueless on where to start. We just want to see how doable a Destination Wedding would be for us realistically.
Post # 3
OF course it is. I would probably call a travel agent, but you can also check out VRBO.com and HomeAway.com for larger estates since they’re an int’l service. I think you paying for villas is very generous. I would talk to your friends and family first in case they don’t want to stay together (some folks are weird and REALLY like privacy/hotels) and are willing to go on their own. If you’re not staying at a resort, I would have the travel agent check the policies for local weddings – indoor and outdoor. And make sure to google ‘non residential weddings in _____’ to see their restrictions. This is all the stuff I have learned on the board. Other folks can give their info but I do know a lot of folks got married before they went and had their spiritual ceremony due to red tape/logistics.
Post # 4
Hey, a good way to start is to talk to the siblings/parents and see what their thoughts are on it. Some may want to “make a vacation of it” and stay elsewhere or be more comfortable staying in a hotel or resort rather than a villa….especially with kids there.
People typically know that they are responsible for paying for their own trip. It is a good idea to let them know what an estimated cost will be though, when you bring it up to them. If you are paying for some people, you would just tell those people that you are paying for them.
Post # 5
There are plenty of destination wedding websites with a lot of detail, the main thing is to research what you want, ie start with countries you would consider. I changed my ideas from Bali, to Chiang Mai to Ko Samui before we decided on Phuket. Plus I changed my date from 2 or 3 days in October 2012 then pushed it back to April 2013.
Post # 6
My friend just had an awesome destination wedding in Playa del Carmen and spent about $11,000 (reception $5000, photographer$3000, dress $1200, flowers $1200), including reception which included everything except photographer and flowers from 2pm to 11pm, fire dancers and a mariachi band it was awesome, not everyone came, but aside from my own wedding it was one the funnest I ever went to because it was small we all bonded very quickly. There were about 25 guests but because everyone was dancing the dance floor was always filled up. She asked me to help with flowers that saved her already $3000, she did not have a bridal party, reception included open bar, DJ, lights, she flew out her own photographer. The rehearsal party was not necessary because dinner was included in the hotel we booked and we met the night before.
One time me and hubby went to a resort in Antigua a destination wedding was $10,000