Post # 1
I know loads of you are experts at trying, pregnancy and babies. I have simply no idea! Except that me and the husband would love children. So Saturday I was due to start my new pill pack and we decided not to bother….which means I could get pregnant I guess? Should I be doing anything to prepare, I presume taking folic acid? Anything else? Also I put in the date of my last period (or withdrawal bleed as I was on the pill) in a pregnancy calculator and it said I would be due (if I conceive right away) in December. Not sure we want a Christmas Baby. So maybe back to condoms for a month. But what are the chances, right off the pill. I haven’t had a proper AF yet? But people get pregnant on the pill so anytime is possible!
Oh I wish I knew what I was doing? General advice would be warmly welcomed. Loads of people on here seem to have everything planned. We just sat in bed, looked at the pill pack, looked at each other and decided not to bother taking them anymore….I didn’t even think about when any possible baby would arrive until this morning. I know it’s not often first time around for everyone, and I’m over 30 but. Eeek. It all got a bit……real! 🙂
Post # 2
I don’t have any advice, but I’ve heard that some women can get pregnant immediately after getting off the pill while it takes some women a bit more time for their bodies to adjust. I would think as long as you’re healthy before the pregnancy and have a good doctor, you’ll be fine. Good luck!
Post # 3
LilLis: I would consider reading “Cherting Your Way to Conception” found here http://www.fertilityfriend.com/HelpCenter/ffhandbook.html It will be alot to take in but will help you pin point when you are fertile.
Mark the first day of your period off the pill and you can “guestimate” that 2 weeks after this day you should ovulate. Meaning you should time sex every other day until shortly after that date. There are load of websites so a simple google seach will help alot. <br />Good luck!
Post # 4
LilLis: Well I got pregnant within 2 weeks of going off the pill (I had been on it for 16 years)…so yes it can happen right away. But you never know, it seems like everyone reacts differently to going off of BCP. Some people take a few months (or longer) for their cycles to regulate/adjust.
All you need to do is take some prenatal vitamins or take extra folic acid.
Post # 5
Everyone is different and there’s no tell how long it would take to conceive. If you really don’t want to risk having a Christmas baby then I would just use some other way to prevent this cycle.
To prepare, get a good prenatal vitamin and start taking that. If you have any other vices that are not good for pregnancy, work on that… for me, it’s coffee! Other than that, gave fun TTC and try not to stress over it…which is unfortunately easier said than done!
Post # 6
Thanks all. I think preventing this month might be a good idea, just to get a chance to get some folic acid and vitamins in. Then for a while at least we will just carry on. I don’t think we will be charting unless it takes us a while. Just go with the flow for the time being.
Post # 7
I know a couple of people that got KU on their first month after stopping the pill (before they got a real AF)… so it is definitely possible. If you really don’t want a Christmas baby I would use condoms. I agree with all PP about taking a prenatal and start trying to give up things you can’t have during pregnancy if it will be difficult for you. Mine was caffeine – I had terrible withdrawal symptoms when I stopped so I was really glad to do it before I had all the other symptoms of pregnancy on top of it, haha.
Post # 8
My struggle to give up will be everything! Wine, ripe cheeses, seafood, pate…..all of these things are part of my daily diet. Me and OH walked to the pub on Saturday afternoon, via the seafood shack and stopped for a couple of oysters! I’ll miss it ALL.
Post # 9
Like the other responders mentioned, you could be lucky, go bnack to having normal cycles right away and get pregnant, or it may very well take a few months.
If you don’t want a December baby, taking a month for your body to sort itself out may not hurt anyways 🙂
I’d recommend starting a prenatal. Charting is a good way to get to know your cycles, but not completely necessary unless you have problems. Some people get more stressed from charting.
Sara79 also made a great suggestion about trying to cut out “no-nos” now if that is something you think is beneficial.
good luck TTC!
Post # 10
LilLis: I think, if you’re just starting to try, your due date would actually be in January (the period/withdraw bleed you will start next week will be the one you’d use for dating – so you’d be counting roughly 9 months out from early April, not March). As far as getting ready, the basics you should be doing are taking a prenatal vitamin and generally taking care of your health – eat healthy foods, get some exercise, drink your water, and try to get enough sleep. Do you need any dental work done? Now would be the best time to get on top of it (you may not be able to get any work done once you are pregnant).
There is a big range of how involved you can be in TTC – some people just ditch birth control and see what happens, while others chart their cycles in great detail and take proactive steps to improve their health and fertility. You should decide how in-depth you want to go. If you want to do more research to better understand the mechanics behind fertility and conception, I could provide recommendations, but if you just want to see what happens, the health stuff is what I would say is most important for you to take care of right now.
Post # 11
LilLis: Why try to cut things out before you have to (as suggested by PP)? I understand if you have caffeine issues (since those can cause withdrawl problems), but cutting out wine or cheese or seafood before you get a BFP or even before you’ve ovulated… WHY?! You should be enjoying it while you can 🙂
By the way, you certainly don’t have to give up all seafood or cheeses. Anything that is pastuerized is fine (even soft cheeses). There are certain seafoods they recommend you not eat (usually big fishes and raw stuff) but most other things are perfectly fine.
Post # 12
SadieBee: What types of dental work can you not have done? I never knew this! I would assume things like wisdom teeth extraction, but how about things like a cavity filling?
Post # 13
LilLis: When I stopped taking the pill, I bought ovulation predictor tests, and I ovulated on day 14 of my first cycle off the pill after taking it for over 16 years. So yes, you can get pregnant. Definitely use condoms this cycle if you don’t want a December baby. Start taking a prenatal vitamin right away (they have folic acid in them) since it’s best to start before trying to get pregnant. If your thinking of casually trying, or just not preventing, then just have fun! I’ll warn you though, it can be hard for certain types of people to have that approach. I thought we’d just “give it a try” and quickly threw that out the window in favor of OPKs, temperature charting, and forcing Darling Husband to have more sex than he’d like during my fertile window. Good luck!
Post # 14
LilLis: Well I would eat up all the oysters I could before getting a BFP – I would mainly just work on giving up stuff that is “addictive” or can have symptoms of stopping (caffeine, smoking, etc.). Oysters you can stop cold turkey when you have to. And definitely start taking a prenatal!
Post # 15
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LilLis: I highly recommend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It’s a great book that helps you better understand how your cycles work and how to use that knowledge to get pregnant. A lot of women get pregnant right away after going off the pill so definitely start taking vitamins with folic acid ASAP (you need to start this before you get a positive prgnancy test for the best results.)
Other than that, unless you have a specific reason to believe getting pregnant is going to be difficult, you and your Darling Husband just need to be having unprotected sex regularly. At least every 2-3 days with him ejaculating inside of you. Have fun and enjoy not having to worry about an unplanned pregnancy for at least 6 months before worrying about charting and temping.