Post # 1
Since I am due in April, my mom has been hounding me about what I want in a shower.
What I really want is a big party with close friends and family.
My wedding shower was pretty stuffy- only females and some were family members I hadn’t seen for years.
This shower, I really want my husband to be there and all of our friends and family, not just females.
My first thought was a BBQ cookout complete with a fire for s’mores and of course booze. It is a celebration after all! Unfortunately, it will be in March. March in PA is pretty cold.
I’m not sure what else I can do to create more of a celebration type atmosphere and less of a game and punch type atmosphere.
My house is pretty big, but not big enough if people can’t go outside. I am looking at 30-40 people.
Venue, menu, and entrainment ideas are welcome for a co-ed shower. I would love to hear from people who have done something similar. Pictures would be awesome!
Post # 2
If you can’t be outside, I would plan something the men will enjoy too. perhaps a brunch shower with bloody Mary’s or bowling and pizza? They are not likely going to participate in the traditional shower games.
Post # 4
My co-worker and his wife did something similar for the birth of their second. He said it was kind of uncomfortable and bizarre. The women (close friends and sisters) showed up expecting a traditional baby shower (since they were calling it a baby shower) with the usual games, food, etc. and the very few men that did show up expected a party. End result: the groups split up.
If it were me, I wouldn’t bother calling it a baby shower, which has so many social conventions, and just call it a party. If you’re hoping for the regular shower-style gifts, you’ll likely need to keep the atmosphere in keeping.
Post # 6
We had a co-ed shower for our twins. A friend and her husband planned it. There were 30 couples. It was catered by Dominos, Subway and Popeye’s. It was a shower in the beginning and a get-together within an hour.
Post # 7
I’m sorry, but I was giving my opinion, not yours.
Obviously it has not been your experience but every shower I have been to has had wine or mimosas etc. Our showers are also held after the baby is born so even mom can drink if she so chooses.
I said the men are not likely to participate in the “traditional” shower games. If the OP can come up with some games that the men consider fun, I am sure they will participate.
ETA I see you have deleted both your responses.
Post # 8
My friends and I are big wine drinkers. We do trips throughout the year to taste.
My husband and his friends enjoy beer.
No one is going to get drunk and throw up on the presents.
I would certainly not be drinking, but I may get a little crazy and have a coffee the morning of
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’m going to go against the grain and tell you it can be done. I threw a co-ed shower for 65 people (actually attended, the guest list was about 75-80 people!), and it was fun. But it was in August, and I did it as a backyard BBQ, complete with microbrews (and no, no one got drunk). Since you are dealing with cold temps and need to be indoors, maybe look at hall options- VFW, Knights of Columbus, volunteer fire department, community spaces, etc. to house your group. You could do something casual, like a pot-luck if your social circle is okay with that, and could even call it an indoor Baby-Q. Obviously, if you want it co-ed, make sure the invitations are addressed to both the male and female members of the house, and that you re-inforce the message via word of mouth.
As for games, we did baby gift bingo and drew a door prize. We also had a wishing tree for everyone to leave a wish/sweet note for the baby and parents-to-be. The theme of the shower was “treetop friends” to go along with the nursery, so the wishing tree fit in well.
All that said, I am of the mind that the guest of honor should not have much input in these things. The role of the guest of honor is to provide a guest list and list of acceptable dates for the event. Beyond that, it is the job of the host(s) to figure out all of the details.
Post # 10
Bowling sounds like an awesome idea. Definitely not stuffy.
I am not likely to participate in traditional shower games lol!!!
Post # 11
I get the whole input thing, but my mom wants me involved.
I’m completely jealous of the backyard BBQ you threw. Sounds wonderful!
Post # 12
Baby Party it is!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 13
I am hoping for more of a get-together. What made it learn more towards that rather than a typical shower?
Post # 14
my cousin had her co-ed shower in the banquet room of a bar/restaurant. i think most of the guys went because they knew they’d be able to watch the football game while they were there, haha. if you’re interested in a guy-friendly game, you could have the guys play basketball with rolled up “”dirty” diapers. they did that my cousin’s shower and the guys seemed to really get into it.
Post # 15
I threw a co-ed shower for my friend. It was March, so we had to keep it inside. We did a taco bar and did a few games that the men could get involved with. It was during college basketball tournament season, so we had a projector with a laptop hooked up so the men didn’t have to miss out on the game that was on during the shower. Everyone had a good time.
I also plan on having a co-ed shower, and it will be in February, so again it has to be inside. I really wanted a “Baby is Brewing” theme, but since the only place large enough to hold the 80 person guest list that was a reasonable price is our church’s community room, we had to go a different direction. We plan on having some food, a diaper raffle, decorate some onesies (we have a really creative group of friends, so this doesn’t work for everyone), and then gift Bingo. Just enough that people who expect games get some, but it won’t bore the men (or me, I’m not a fan of traditional games).