- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
We are having a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party in Vegas a couple weeks before our wedding. We decided to do this because we have nearly all mutual friends between the two of us (there’s hardly anyone who’s really “only” friends with my FI or “only” friends with me because we’ve been together a long time, and many of our friends are couples themselves (many married, some dating, some engaged).
I’m not quite sure what to do about inviting the plus one’s of a few people we want to invite. For example, my sister (who is a bridesmaid) is coming, but her boyfriend I’m not sure if I’m obligated to invite. She and I haven’t discussed so I’m not sure if she’s hoping to bring him. She has kept him pretty cut off from the rest of our family so I do not really even know him. He has never even met all my other friends. So, perhaps he won’t even want to come, but they are really attached at the hip so I’m worried she may just want to bring him along because they’re always together. They also both love Vegas so that’s another reason I think he will want to tag along. He’s a pretty negative person and in all honesty I’d rather not have him there becasue of his attitude (of course that’s a whole ‘nother issue!). She and I haven’t discussed this, and I’m not sure how to bring it up. If I ask “So, is Jason coming?” then she will probably assume that he is invited. I’m secretly hoping she doesn’t bring him so we can have some sister time together, but I feel like if I tell her “please leave him behind so that we can have some sister time” that argument doesn’t hold much weight since the party is co-ed!
We have also a few old friends who were married recently so we don’t really know their new spouses. There’s also some of my old girlfriends who I am close with, but they moved away awhile ago, and they now have new boyfriends whom I don’t know. If it were completely up to me I would just invite all the people we are close to and not the partners/plus one’s that we are less close to, but I’m not sure if I have the right to not invite these people, just because it’s a co-ed party? I want everyone to have fun and I know for most parties people enjoy bringing their spouses and partners (and of course these partners are invited to the actual wedding), but ideally I’d really just like it to be a smaller party with our closest friends. Do I have any right to say “just close friends” are invited or would that be horrible of me?