(Closed) CO-Ed Shower? opinions please

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@cllyons: my family threw me a girls-only bridal shower followed by an open party. It worked well. We opened presents, snacked and played a couple games before the guys showed up. Then it was a great party. We also played a variation of the newlywed game with all the couples present, which was a lot of fun.

Post # 4
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have three very close friends that are guys and they attended my shower and if FH was in town he would have attended too.  My cousin also had a couples shower and it was a ton of fun having everyone together. 

Post # 5
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had a girls only shower and a couples shower. Both were great! I really liked having the guys there so I say go for it. I’m sure you will have a great time 🙂

Post # 7
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My fiance’s best friend recently got married and they had a co-ed shower. It was a good time for all. We brought a gift to the shower and had another gift sent directly to them for the wedding. I believe this is standard etiquette, but could be wrong. It seemed like the right thing to do since they’re best friends and my fiance was in the bridal party.

I’m not certain that I’m having a bridal shower since my matron of honor lives in another state and I don’t know how easy it will be for her to coordinate. But if I end up having one and get any say, I plan on doing co-ed as well. I don’t really like being the center of attention so I think it would be more comfortable – and fun – for me if my fiance is there as well.

Not to mention the fact that I really have no good female friends and none of my family lives nearby aside from my parents.

Post # 8
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am going to go against the grain and say a lot of my SO’s guy friends have been in weddings the past couple of years, and I always hear complaints from them when they have to go to co-ed showers.

Post # 9
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I dont know any guys that like showers so you will have to entertain the guys somehow.  Maybe have a lot of good guy food like beer and burgers and a football game playing.  Then they will be happy to attend.

Post # 10
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yes the aim of showers is to get gifts…and have loved ones “shower” you with happiness.  That’s why you don’t plan your own -looks like gift grubbing.  Instead graciously accept the one(s) thrown for you.  It has been my experience that most bridal showers are just for women with the groom possibly showing up to help open gifts.  *Yawn* (for gift opening -who wants to watch that?)  My sisters threw me a regular “girls only” shower where my husband did just that -showed up later for gifts.  My best friend & her mother threw us a co-ed cocktail party in the evening which was actually very nice -we had a great time.  So either goes these days, just as long as the gifts you are registered for are for your new household, not personal items for him and her.  In that case, the couples’ shower REALLY begins to look greedy.  As for 2 gifts, 1 is given at the shower and another at the wedding (pretty standard).  As to the wedding gift, usually cash is given, but we still got many gifts off of our registry.  I wanted to feel bad about all of this, but hey I did the same thing for many, many couples -we all get our turn.

Post # 11
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had a girls-only bridal shower, in which most people brought me lingerie. My Future Mother-In-Law was bent out of shape over the fact that my fiance wasn’t present, even though I do think it would’ve been a bit inappropriate. Plus we live out of the area from which the party was held(my hometown). I think it was perfect with just girls and it was great for a girly party.

However, on the  other hand, the people at my work are giving me a “wedding shower”. In which they want my fiance to attend. (I think they are rather *curious* of him, as none of them have met him.) Also, men were invited to the shower as well. My work tends to give parties/showers for people, and make them co-ed, and it’s just not unusual. We are going to have at least 2 other guys there besides my own fiance.THe people will be giving us more like wedding registry type of gifts though. I am actually really nervous about the whole thing! I hope things turn out okay, as I hate being the center of attention. I’m glad fiance will be there with me. Mind you, not everyone at the work shower are invited to the wedding: I only invited my close coworkers. They understand,though.  I am having a smaller wedding (under 60). Also, my coworkers are mostly generations older than me. I’ve been the youngest the whole time I have been working there for 6 years. I am hoping my Future Mother-In-Law won’t come to this shower, because it’s a bit far for her to travel (where fiance and I live). I think it’s fun and exciting for them for one of the youngest people to get married though…..the last teacher who got married was over 6 years ago!

Post # 13
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I accidentally had a coed shower. Boys were supposed to be in another room (they didn’t want to miss out on the good food so they came), but they were so into what was happening in our room that they kept coming over, which I was fine with. All we did was eat, mingle, and open presents, so it was very guy friendly.

We just threw a coed baby shower for a friend, and they wanted to have games. Boys weren’t into it. I think it depends on the type of shower you want.

Post # 14
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My sister in law had a co-ed shower at a modern restaurant that had a party room.  My Fiance and all the guys in the family complained like hell and made fun of it… The party came around, and it was a blast.  It was basically just a party — we all got drunk — no games, no foo foo BS.  It was great! 

Post # 15
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had a co-ed shower, we went to play mini golf and it was FAB! Loved it, and the event ended up spanning the day/night.

Post # 16
1452 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

it’s an interesting choice, for sure.

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