(Closed) co-MOH or no MOH?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who should be my MOH?
    A should be your MOH : (1 votes)
    11 %
    K and A should be co-MOH's : (1 votes)
    11 %
    A should be MOH for the wedding and N should be MOH for everything else : (0 votes)
    K and A should be co-MOH's for the wedding and N should be MOH for everything else : (1 votes)
    11 %
    Don't replace N. You don't need an MOH for the wedding. : (6 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 3
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think you should just leave N as your Maid/Matron of Honor.  You don’t really need an Maid/Matron of Honor on the wedding day itself – she really is no different than a bridesmaid – but giving A the title for the wedding and N the title for the reception will likely make K feel left out (especially if all three have been very helpful).  It also seems silly to call all three of them Maid/Matron of Honor – what’s the point?  They might as well all just be called bridesmaid at that point.

    You chose N to be your Maid/Matron of Honor initially for a reason.  Let her keep that title by herself, continue to help with the planning, and be there for the at-home reception – even if she can’t make it to the ceremony.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    In this situation I might just opt not to make a distinction at all.  I’d just say they’re all your BM’s.  So no one feels left out/offended or even competitive.  If they each have wedding related tasks, it doesn’t really make much difference.

    Post # 5
    Member
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it would be find to let all your bridesmaids know that you feel that they are all maids of honor.  You do need someone to be the acting maid of honor at your wedding.  She’ll hold your bouquet and tend to your gown as you move.  You could appoint one girl to do the bouquet and another to tend to your train etc… 

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