Post # 1
So I am giving out my “Will You Be My…” invitations this weekend at our engagement party. I already asked my Maid/Matron of Honor back in January (before we were even engaged) if she would take the job. Of course she said yes. However, I am thinking that since I have 6 lovely ladies in my Bridal Party that I would ask an equally good friend to be my Co-MOH. Said Bridesmaid or Best Man lives in Iowa so it would not have been possible for her to be the Maid/Matron of Honor with full duties.
I feel like this would relieve a lot of stress off of current Maid/Matron of Honor with planning, etc. She was just Maid/Matron of Honor for a mutual friend of ours and I saw what a toll it took on her. I don’t want her being stressed out until the day I get married!! However, I do not want to offend her either.
What do we think Bees?
Post # 3
I’m doing this! I’m also having 6 in my bridal party and am having my 2 best friends as co-MOHs. They are both grateful to be able to split responsibilities and are not offended at all…. I guess it depends on personality though, I could see how some girls could take offense to this.
Post # 4
I honestly think it depends on the relationship between the 2 co-MOHS. Do they know each other well? Are they friends despite of you? If these two women do not have a relationship (and a good one, at that) regardless of you and your wedding, I would not do it. There would be too much opportunity for drama and making everything twice as hard on both of them. When I get engaged, I plan on doing this with my sister and my cousin, but obviously they are close as well so I think that there is a less opportunity for any jealousy or resentment as they will be able to work together well.
Also, I might run this by your previously chosen Maid/Matron of Honor. Considering she has been under the impression for months that she has been your sole Maid/Matron of Honor, it might hurt her feelings that you now want to give someone else the title as well. I think it would have been different if you had asked both in the beginning, but since you didn’t, I would approach your original Maid/Matron of Honor before you ask the other girl to step up.
Post # 5
I totally did this!
Maid/Matron of Honor1 – Married, lived where I lived, preggo with her first child, etc. Huge support of me and my husband in our relationship and really more there for support couldn’t do a ton in regards to planning etc.
Maid/Matron of Honor2 – Best friend from High school and throughout college. She knows me very well. She lives in the town where my wedding was. She was awesome to help with everything and run errands/etc down there when I couldn’t.
Both gave speaches at the wedding.
Post # 6
I think I will talk to Maid/Matron of Honor1 about it first. She and I have a really open and honest relationship and have been friends since I was in middle school. Maid/Matron of Honor2 and I have been friends for 4 years in September. She is my best friend from my adult life.
Maid/Matron of Honor1 and Maid/Matron of Honor2 have met before. I had them both down to Philly for Halloween weekend last year and we all had a total blast together. I felt that they really hit it off.
Neither Maid/Matron of Honor lives in Philly. Maid/Matron of Honor1 lives in my hometown in the Poconos, about 2 hours north of Philadelphia. Maid/Matron of Honor2 lives in IOWA.
Post # 8
i’m having two…i rationalized it by saying one is matron of honor and the other is maid of honor, as one of them is married already, plus Maid/Matron of Honor1 is hoping to be pregnant by our wedding and understandably will have her own things going on. i think Maid/Matron of Honor1 was caught a little off-guard when i told her she had a co-MOH, but ultimately i think they both understand. Maid/Matron of Honor1 lives where i live (as does one bridesmaid), Maid/Matron of Honor2 is closer to where the wedding is (and the other bridesmaid lives down the street from our hopeful venue), so i’m sure i will be leaning on different ones for different things. having been the Maid/Matron of Honor for Maid/Matron of Honor1 already, i can say that i definitely wouldn’t have minded sharing the responsibility with another person!
meanwhile, Fiance is using my two MOHs as an excuse to have two best men (and thus not offend either of his best friends). from the feedback we’ve gotten, having two best men is much weirder than having two MOHs. oh well, it works for us (i think this will be my wedding planning mantra).