(Closed) Co sleeping

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My SIL cosleeps with all 3 of her kids….well has coslept I should say. I havent heard that its dangerous. Ive actually heard its safer because you are right next to the baby and can know if theyre breathing properly or not. I would go to Hellobee.com as well because I’m sure there’s a bunch of posts/info about cosleeping over there. I think you should do what feels right for you and your family.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I am from WI and the Milwaukee area has a very high number of infant deaths due to co sleeping. Around Christmas time they had 3 in a 17 day span. The ads they used were very dramatic, but they needed to do something so they started this huge push to educate everyone on the dangers of co-sleeping.

I personally have never done it. Have there been times where I dose of breastfeeding yes, but the dangers far out way any converience that come from it. We had a spot right next to the bed for a bassinet/moses basket so the girls could be right there, but yet still safe. It also made it less of an isue when they were older since they weren’t use to sleeping with us.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think one of the dangers of co-slepping comes from the possibility of unknowingly smothering a small child while sleeping. I have a friend who’s close with a couple where the father actually did this. He was not drunk or under any influence. He simply fell asleep with his infant daughter on his chest. He rolled over and she was trapped underneath him and suffocated. It’s tragic, and it’s a very real danger.

I personally am not a fan of co-sleeping. I can certainly understand a bassinet next to the bed in the first few months. I did that myself. But past a certain age and developmental stage, I believe the best place for a child to sleep is in their own room and/or their own bed.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, that second picture is just plain ridiculous.  Co-sleeping is very common in many countries/cultures around the world but here in North American we tend to lean against it.  If you and/or your partner (sharing the bed) aren’t: overweight, smokers, inebriated (alcohol or drugs)…..then co-sleeping is relatively safe.  And if you’re concerned, use one of the 3 sided attachments that join to the side of your bed but give the baby their own separate space.  Ultimately, you should do what you feel is best!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know many people swear by co-sleeping and say its totally safe or say they have done it for years. But I also know many people who have smoked for years and who claim smoking is totally safe since they havetn gotten ill from smoking. My point is there are many people who do risky things but dont suffer and consequences but that doesnt make their actions less risky.  I would just like to err on the side of caution and have my baby in a crib in my room instead of co sleeping on the same bed

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I hate those ads. They prey on the caring nature of mothers to instill totally unfounded fear.

Co-sleeping is practiced in many cultures, you’re right; and as long as your practice it SAFELY here, it’s fine. And your idea of a bassinet immediately next to your bed is actually RECOMMENDED here in Canada. The main concern comes into play when you have big fluffy duvets and such, and don’t keep them away from the baby. As long as you don’t smother them with quilts/pillows, it’s fine. (And keep them on your side of the bed, not dad’s.)

ETA: Here are a couple articles about those ads: http://www.moxiebird.com/2011/11/babies-butcher-knives-hyperbole-in-anti-co-sleeping-campaign.htmlhttp://www.parenting.com/blogs/show-and-tell/melanie-parentingcom/milwaukee-co-sleeping-ad-outrages-parents-nationwide

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not a parent so I don’t have experience with this but when we do have kids, we will not co-sleep. A couple from my area lost their infant son after the mother rolled over on him while he was in some special co-sleeper thingamajig. I’m sure there are preventative measures but it’s just not worth it for me. Besides, it seems just as easy to have the baby in a bassinet (or whatever) next to the bed as it would be to have him/her in the bed. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@UpstateCait: “it seems just as easy to have the baby in a bassinet (or whatever) next to the bed”

That’s what the OP said she wanted to do.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t like the idea of co sleeping for me personally I would be terrified that I would accidentely suffocate baby. With my now 3 year old I had a bassinet right next to my bad. It was still very convienent to breast feed. I just lifted him out of his bassinet it didn’t require me to even get out of bed. At 4 months he was switched to his nursery with no problems.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@Jenniphyr: It is not an unfounded fear. As I said before that area has a higher then average infant mortalitly rate directly linked to co-sleeping. At the very least it got people talking about it and maybe thinking about having safer co-cleeping techniques.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@ieatunicorns: They present an unrealistic image of co-sleeping. No one who looks at those ads & feels fear actually intends to co-sleep with the baby on their stomach on a pillow, with sheets and a duvet wrapped around them.

And according to the study that resulted in those ads, the majority was so slim (51.7% in beds vs. 48.3% in cribs) that it’s laughable that they’re pinning it all on co-sleeping. I don’t see any ads making the comparison of crib bumpers to cleavers, even though they’ve been implicated in infant deaths time & time again.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@Jenniphyr: When you have several deaths in one area in a short period of time  I am not sure what you think they should do. I know there aren’t articles about this, but I live here and can tell you most of those families aren’t co sleeping to be close to their infants it is because the can’t afford a crib. There are people that of course co sleep successfuly and it is great for them, these ads aren’t for those people that are educated on how to safely co sleep.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Having a bassinet right next to your bed is safe, and they even make ones that attach to your bed so you really just need slide the baby in or out of it between nursing rather than needing to get out of your bed, or pick up the baby if there are worries about waking him/her. 

I’m an SLP and have had 2 patients in Early Intervention due to anoxic brain injuries from co-sleeping.  The reason it works in say, Africa, and not here – is because of the type of bedding we use.  Squishy mattresses, lots of pillows, layers of sheets – all of these things can very easily end up covering a baby’s face while Mom is sleeping.  Because infants don’t “alert” as well as we do when they’re not breathing (ie: sleep apnea episodes), they can actually go a dangerously long time before there is any hint that they’re not breathing.

It doesn’t seem worth the risk to me when there is a very simple, very convenient alternative.

 

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