(Closed) Co-worker said I better invite him to my wedding

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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coralmermaid :   How rude!   Sorry you have to deal with that – it will be awkward now if he is invited or not.  

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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coralmermaid :  The cleanest liine to draw is to only invite those co-worker with whom you have  social relationship outside work (having lunch together on a workday doesn’t count).

Be prepared with a response for when he or anyone else says something like this. “We would love to have you there. Unfortunately we are unable to invite everyone we would like to have with us.”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Just don’t invite him. Who says “you better invite me to your wedding” in a serious way anyway? 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

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coralmermaid :  I had my roomate say the same to me the day after I got engaged ( we barely know each other and I’ve tried to develop a frienship with her but she has shown no interest), guess whos not invited…

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

“You better invite me” automatically makes me want to NOT  invite someone.

Just make a “no co-workers” rule. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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coralmermaid :  He probably thought he was being nice, like trying to show you’re important to him. I wouldn’t take it seriously. If he brings it up again, just say you can’t invite everyone from work so you’re not inviting anyone.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

“LOL tell that to my MIL! We’re trying to keep it small but she keeps inviting people! Oh my gosh, did you hear about [insert random topic change here]?”

I had co-workers invite themselves when it was over a year away LOL.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969 - City, State

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coralmermaid :  Reading your title alone without the context and tone of voice it sounded like a threat, but he was probably trying to be funny. 

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/61009769930855008/> This flow chart may help you decide based on whether you spend time with your co-worker outside of work and if their presence will add joy to your day. Might help simplify things for you. Also, he may have good reasons for not attending your previous parties. Does not mean he will not show up for your wedding!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had an executive at my then-company (not my SVP, but one who interviewed me when I was hired and with whom I sometimes worked) tell me that he expected to be invited. I was pretty surprised when he said it, and I did feel a bit awkward about it. However, I chose to invite him and his wife. They are lovely people. He even left our organization many months prior to my wedding, but I still invited them, and they attended.

Regarding co-workers, I was close with only two, but I decided to invite my whole (not very large) department and their spouses as well as my SVP and CEO and some other key staff. In hindsight, that was a lot of people from work, but, at the time, those people were playing a significant role in my everyday life, and I don’t regret including them, even though I haven’t seen any of them in many years now.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

DH and I chose to not invite any coworkers (regardless of relationship with them). It just made it more fair, and everyone understood.

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