Post # 1
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319 posts
Helper bee
- Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse
I’m 21, a flower child at heart, I want equality in the world, so and and so forth. Well I live in a small little country town in West Virginia and everyone kind of has the same mind set. Homophobia is common, country music, big trucks, and Football is everything. Not that anything is wrong with that, it’s just what the majority enjoys. I’m personally not into those things but get along well with those who do. But the ladies at my work, that’s what they enjoy. They’re all 40+ so their interests and opinions are opposite of mine. I try so hard to be interested in their lives and likes. I visited my fiances new work and I felt like Ive known the people there forever. It’s a restaurant and I swore I wouldn’t waitress as my job ever again,last place wore me out. But this place made me miss it. Im a bank teller and there are benefits when I need them and steady hours and pay. But man, it made my heart ache to be around people I can talk to. The restaurant owner has offered me a position before. Ugh… I don’t know what to think.
Post # 3
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
@FutureMrsB123: A work culture is almost as important as the job itself! I completely understand where you are coming from. However, you said one things which irked me…
They’re all 40+ so their interests and opinions are opposite of mine.
Just because they are older or different, doesn’t mean you can’t find things in common with them. I know you said you’ve tried hard to get along with them, but what does that mean? You might bring up some of your interests and ideas. Heck, if you are thinking about leaving, what would it hurt to push the boundaries a bit and test out where these friendships might be able to go?
Post # 4
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319 posts
Helper bee
- Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse
@aliavenue: I meant that they have children who are my age or older with kids of their own so they’re in a different place than I am. I feel like I bring things up and no one knows what I’m talking about. There are a couple of girls who are close to my age but haven’t gotten to work with them much. I CAN get along with them which is better than not being able to. I’d just like to be able to have friendships with them and conversations about our common interests. I’ll work on asking more things about them and maybe finding some common interests. I just kind of feel like the black sheep:(
Post # 5
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2961 posts
Sugar bee
@FutureMrsB123: Oh I feel your pain! I AM an old hippie and I am just as outspoken and politically involved as when I was a teenager. Luckily I teach at a local college where my personality is well tolerated. It is everywhere else where I don’t fit in. Most of the people my age have sold out, for lack of a better term. They no longer work on behalf of causes or speak out about social and economic injustices. And of course many younger people are all caught up in their education, getting married, having babies, etc.
While I get along with co-workers, I never really looked to them for companionship beyond the work place. Is that really important to you? I ask because to me liking the job and earning decent money are more important than having work buddies. It doesn’t sound like the work atmosphere is all that horrible so which job is more appealing to you?
Post # 6
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319 posts
Helper bee
- Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse
@trueblue14: I’ve always worked in places that I’ve made friends at. I don’t have friends in this town since i just moved here, so it’s a little important to me. I’d like to go out and have drinks with friends. My job position is only part time, so maybe I could do both? Best of both worlds. I was just excited to start the job and meet new people, now I’m all bummed out.