(Closed) Co-workers, buy this bride a gift!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think its nice, i’ve seen it done for Birthdays so what’s wrong for a wedding? each to thier own.

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

This is the norm at my office for occassions such as births or funerals. I never feel pressured to give anything but I  would usually always contribute. Depedning on how close I was to the person I would give as much as $100 or as little as $20. I really don’t see this as a big deal.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@megz06:  I work for a big company. But my department, or rather my division is all full of really good people and it’s a close knit group in the sense that we all have to work together and we know how closely intertwined all of our jobs are. we are all super lucky to have such a good group of people. In light of this, it’s not uncommon at all for us to make a big deal out of babies, weddings, funerals, birthdays, promotions, etc. We think of it as being supportive of each other and our lives, this is where we spend most of our time after all. We spend more time with each other than we do with our own familes in most cases. People will send emails regularly (usually one of the admin and I have stepped in a few times for my boss) that say something like “hey there! so and so ‘s birthdaywedding etc is coming up and the office is going to get a gift! If you would like to contribute you can stop by my desk.” They will also come around right before the event an dask one more time in person, but its always done in a really friendly non car salesman way lol Like hey guys, imgoing tonight to get so and so’s gift, so if you haven’t contributed and you were still wanting to let me know! No one has ever been treatd badly if they can’t contribute or been made to feel awkward. Thankfully too, the higher ups here really foot a lot of the expense when it comes to stuff like this. So this isn’t a negative thing here in my office. People really get into it actually.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

I’d rather contribute to a gift, or give my own gift, than suffer through a shower anyway.

I’m not sure what the big deal is. It doesn’t seem like an unusal practice or request, and it was done in a rather unintrusive and pressure free manner–here’s the information is you WISH to contribute. No one is forcing you to contribute. If someone started sending follow up emails asking where your money was, i could see being offended.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Before I retired, this was also very common in my office. We celebrated everything and it was on a volunteer basis. If someone got married, we pooled money to get a gift, if they had a baby, if they graduated, or if someone in the family died, we’d pool money for a flower spray. We had one occassion where someone’s child took very ill and had to be off for several months, we pooled cash just to help with household expenses. We didn’t think anything of it. I’ve thrown in $5 for folks I didn’t know, more for people I did know and liked and I never felt obligated. It’s just a nice thing to do.

When I left, I was given a nice office party and a great gift and only 3 people in my office were invited to my bridal shower. I don’t see the problem.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well, I work in a staff of about 30. We all always chip in for everyones baby, bridal shower, wedding gift etc. Flowers for someone who’s spouse is sick, we got one of the doctors something because her mom died. I get emails for the whoe facility whenever another ward is doing the same thing. I just pick and choose what I’m going to contribute towards and chip in what I can. I don’t think the bride is setting this up. Honestly I would never not give to a co worker who was getting married, I would think that was rude. 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@DJones69:  We’ve done this too for sick employees or those with ill family members. We even give away our own vacation time. I guess each organization is different but I like the personal touch myself.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@megz06:  

I think that by the subject line being “Sara’s Shower” it means that there will probably be a few snacks brought into the break room. I would throw in a couple of bucks or just walk down and say congratulations. I don’t think you have to pay anything. My office does things where we decorate co-workerss desks around birthdays/showers and bring in treats or flowers. ANd thats it. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I work with all men, so I’ll do that once in a while, but not company-wide.  I’ll send an email to our group of 15 and let them know that so and so is getting married or having a baby, if you want to contribute, give me the $$ and I’ll get something off their registry.  I send around a card for everyone to sign.

What I don’t do when you try to hand me a $10 at the lunch where I just gave him the $50 Babies R Us giftcard is add your name to the card.  Too late, just give him the cash, you had a week to give it to me before I went and bought the thing 10 minutes ago, or it would have been a $60 gc. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I didn’t read all the comments. But, I too work for a small organization and we always chip in for big life events and get gifts. We threw my co-worker a small bridal shower. We all chipped in $15 and bought her a few things off the registry. My boss baked some cupcakes and we did a little 45 minute shower during the workday. We are all a tightknit group, so I didn’t mind at all. 

We’ve done similar things for others, one of my co-workers had breast cancer and we threw her a party with gifts when she completed chemo.

I’m pretty certain my co-workers will throw me something before I take leave for my wedding. 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We always do that here, but there’s also usually a casual lunch or happy hour gathering (we have about 1k employees, but there are 300 of us who are FT). Usually office people get together for office people’s showers, and animal people get together for animal people’s showers (I work at a zoo). So one person in the department will set something up (reserve a conference room), and then just email everyone the day/time and who is collecting the money.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@megz06:  Ooooh.  Well that makes a difference certainly. I’d only contribute if I was asked to join in on the fun. Otherwise, you can put your out-stretched hand back to your side.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

 We do this at my work and I find nothing wrong with it. One girl had a baby a few months ago and an email was sent out if people wanted to bring food and contribute money to a gift card. The girl never spoke to me even when I’d say hi, so I just ate the food and didn’t contribute.oops.  lol.  Another girl it’s having a baby and her dept sent out the same type of  email. I  chipped in 5 bucks because I like her.  just delete the email if you don’t want to contribute.

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