Post # 1
So I totally forgot that I had RSVP to my coworkers engagement party. To be honest I had no idea why she would invite me in the first place cause I had only been working here for less than a month at the time she invited me…. So I said I’d come cause she kept asking.. (that was February) and the party is this saturday…. I am suppose to give her a gift? EVEN though I am not invited to the wedding?
Post # 3
No, engagment parties are to announce the engagement. Showers are when the Bride is given gifts. You know, “shower with gifts”.
Post # 4
No wedding invite, no present imho. That’s kinda crappy anyway.
Post # 5
Yeah I thought it was very random… I thought for sure you aren’t suppose to invite people who are NOT invited to the wedding, not to mention I had only known her for maybe 2 weeks??
Post # 6
At the minimum, for good office relations, get *at least* a card, and I strongly suggest contemplating getting something else as well (even if small). My old coworker was pissed that a friend (or maybe a family friend) showed up at an engagement party without even a card. I think she said pp cost was over $30 (her wedding was well upwards of $50K, she had expensive tastes). She held it in her hometown, across the country from the wedding, so a lot went to it but not the wedding. If the bride is chill, she may not care, but my old officemate certainly did!
Post # 7
don’t worry about why she invited you. If I had to guess, I would suspect that she invited you only so you didn’t feel bad cuz she invited everyone else at work!
Post # 8
@red_rose: that’s what I was thinking! I have done this before…invited someone at work to come to something just because I didn’t want word getting around that they were they ONLY one not invited.
Post # 9
I would get her a card, then at least if everyone else brings a gift you won’t look bad 🙂 No one will know what’s in the card except for her! And I’m sure she wouldn’t expect a gift since you aren’t invited to her wedding.
Post # 10
I invited my co workers to my engagement party to be held in August. I’m not expecting any gifts but I’d gladly accept any gifts they decided to bring.
Post # 11
I should probably update. I ended up contributing some money towards her honeymoon and giving her a card. I do really like her as a coworker so I wanted to maintain our current relationship and keep it in good faith. Thanks to everyone who responded!