Post # 1
Ok so Fiance says that he has never been to a wedding where the bride and groom are seen during the cocktail hour. I’m not sure that I have either. However, we are not the traditional couple. We are doing as many pictures beforehand as possible. So we will not necessairly need to be out doing photos during the cocktail hour like most people do. I want to use the cocktail hour to visit with guests and take pictures with party goers to minimize that effort during the reception. Is this normal or completely off the wall? What is acceptable for the bride and groom during cocktail hour?
Post # 3
We were there for our cocktail hour. I’ve actually seen a bride/groom stand at the door to greet their guests coming into cocktail hour to be sure they met and thanked everyone. I thought that was an awesome idea. Kind of a different take on a receiving line.
Post # 4
One of our main reasons for doing a first look was so that we could be at our cocktail hour. We spent a lot of money on that and we wanted to enjoy it! Most of the weddings I’ve attended didn’t have the bride and groom in attendance but we’re also the first couple of our group to do a first look. If you want to be there for your cocktail hour then do it. There’s nothing wrong with it. If anything, you’ll just get more time with your guests and you won’t be subjected to the cold hor d’ourerves that the waitstaff will bring you.
Post # 5
I’ve been to weddings where the bride & groom are present for the cocktail hour. It was nice to socialize with them before they hit the dance floor or sat down to eat dinner.
Post # 6
We’re going to ours. We both want appetizers and time to mingle – we’re kind of hoping we can avoid having to go to every table at the reception this way, although that may be a pipe dream.
Post # 7
We joined the cocktail hour and I almost wish we didn’t. We were being pulled in ten different directions and didn’t get much to eat, which made me cranky 🙂 Although I think I would have regretted missing it. We did have some food in the bridal room before going out while I made DH try and help me with my bustle.
Post # 8
@S157947: I think its totally normal for the bride and groom to be at their cocktail hour! We did all of our pics beforehand, so we got to talk to all of our guests. I wish I got to eat more of the food though, people were handing me stuff as I talked to them!
Who wants to miss out on all the good food you picked out??
Post # 9
To be fair, we’ve never been to a wedding where the B+G were present the entire cocktail hour. We’ve been to one where they came at the end and we knew bc it was a very small Destination Wedding. That being said, we ordered some awesome hors d’eouvres so we have every plan of making it to our cocktail hour! We’re planning to do as many photos as we can before our ceremony and we will leave a few of the “just us” photos during the cocktail hour IF the outdoor lighting is that gorgeous golden/white light.
Post # 10
If you’d rather be mingling than locked away taking photos, by all means, do it. As a guest, I really dislike waiting for the bridal party to finish their photos so we can eat— no matter what the finger food situaiton at cocktail hour is like, I’m usually ready to sit down, get off my achy feet, and have a nice meal!
If you do plan to mingle more than photograph during cocktail hour, I’d recommend asking the caterer to set up a few nibbles plates for you to enjoy before heading into the party. This way, you can get something in your tummy quickly and not have to worry about being pulled away from your nibble during the cocktail hour, or having to talk with your mouth full.
Post # 11
@fishbone thanks lady this makes perfect sense and also gives me another task to add to my wedding coordinator!! Great idea!! I also hate waiting on the bridal party to eat, it’s a personal pet peeve of mine!
@Stammie16 – yes this is completely my thoughts!! I want to be able to nibble on the delicious appetizers we have picked out!!
@sportsgal31 – I am totally hoping this will happen for us too. Great minds think alike!!! Good luck acheiving the task. 🙂
@CaitMarae – this is how I feel too. I so want to be able to mingle with guests and get all of that out of the way as soon as possible. I have heard from many brides the nightmares of their reception and not being able to enjoy theirselves.