Post # 1
So frustrated. My SO and I LOVE food, its super important to us. And it’s starting to look like the only way we are going to be able to have a decent cocktail hour that fits our budget is if we DIY it. But that means having the ceremony AND cocktail hour in one location and the reception across town at another.
As a wedding guest what would you prefer?
A fancier, heartier cocktail hour and then a 20 minute drive to the reception? Shot glass shrimp cocktail, stuffed tomatoes, prosciutto wrapped asparagus etc. The drive means quite a few people also won’t get to drink at the cocktail hour.
Or a simple cocktail hour of fruit, cheese, deli meat, crackers and veg and just stay at the same place all day?
*sigh* if the reception venue allowed outside food it would be perfect.
Thanks for the help.
Post # 2
The cocktail hour is not as important as the reception. So just do a simple cocktail hour and then have the reception
Post # 3
Cocktail hour should absolutely be in the same location as reception. What’s the point of a fancy cocktail hour if only half the people can indulge and people are anxious about moving to location 2? Guest comfort/safety trumps your foodie dreams I think.
Post # 4
As a guest, especially if I am from out of town, I would prefer it all to be in one place. We are doing a simple cocktail hour, like what you stated. We focused on our reception dinner for the good stuff. If cocktail hour is really important to you, have it in two places. It is your wedding. I have been to weddings that had an amazing cocktail hour and others with pretty much nothing. I don’t think it makes or breaks the wedding.
Post # 4
I agree with MrsBuesleBee: 100%!
Post # 6
Thanks guys! Cocktail hours are SUPER rare here. Normally we just have a 2 hour gap where people do their own thing then show up at the reception site. But we will be having a very rare wedding with the ceremony and reception in the same place. (Lots of church weddings).
So I’ve been feeling like “oh god if we have a cocktail hour it should be a COCKTAIL HOUR!” you know?
Thanks for talking me down off the crazy ledge. I know this must sound really stupid but I feel like people will kind of “expect things” from our wedding. SO so dumb I know. No one cares at ALL about it as much as I do. I’ve just heard so many catty comments at our friends weddings *shakes head*.