Post # 1
My daughter says now she wants the cocktail hour before the ceremony. Her fiancé says his family and friends in their Jewish tradition do it this way. He says because they are typically always late. This is not a religouse wedding in any way. My inking it’s just crazy. I would like to hear from others that might be doing this have done it or have been to a wedding that did this. Is it really a better idea to drink First then expect people to sit for the ceremony. Do role really think this is a better idea is it just me thinking its insane? HElP
Post # 2
Well I think it’s a good idea just because who wouldn’t want to have a drink before the ceremony lol however if they’re trying to use some excuse like ‘it’s tradition’ when I haven’t even heard of it until recently it’s b.s.
If they’re (groom’s family) paying for it, tell them sure! If they’re saying that you have to pay for it, tell them no. The groom’s family should not be telling you how to spend money for your daughter’s wedding
Post # 3
I’ve been to a few weddings where they served drinks and/or cocktails beforehand as well as after the ceremony prior to dinner. It was no big deal. You will probably need to still have a cocktail hour after the ceremony as well, unless you want to go straight into dinner. The part that bothered me about these weddings was that it was not disclosed that the ceremony wasn’t starting at the time listed on the invitation. It was kinda like a “surprise” cocktail hour. Although it was nice, for two of these weddings, we left other activities early and rushed to get to these weddings only to stand around for an hour before the ceremony actually started. It was a bit annoying. I think if communicated properly, OR kept to a reasonable time, it would be no big deal. People start arriving 30 minutes before the start so that needs to be kept in mind as well.
Post # 4
I don’t see a problem with it, and would in fact, enjoy it!
Post # 5
I think having a full hour is a bit much, but I think offering up drinks/cocktails as guests arrive (since some will arrive 15-25 minutes early) would be nice. This way you don’t have guests arriving at 3:45pm thinking they are going to see a ceremony at 4pm only to find out that it really isn’t starting until 5pm because cocktail hour.
Post # 6
I see nothing wrong with it. I always encourage couples to make the wedding their own. Of course there are traditions you can follow, but you dont have to. While the bridal party is taking pictures after the ceremony, You could choose to do something else for the guests at this time like a video/timeline of your life together, have 2 cocktail hours, etc. its your day, make it grand.
Post # 7
Sounds fun! I’d love a drink before the ceremony. If its what your daughter wants then she should go for it, regardless her reason.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate
traiab: I think it’s a great idea. I didn’t want my cocktail hour before the ceremony however I did want guests to be greated with our signature cocktail upon arrival and then have access to more if wanted, while waiting for ceremony to start- we didn’t end up doing it though for money reasons.
Post # 9
Our venue calls this the “welcome” bar and encourages it when both the ceremony and reception are in the same place. It’s not supposed to replace the cocktail hour according to our venue coordinator, just fill up some time when things could be running late starting.
It sounds like just more dollar signs clinking to me.
Post # 10
I think it’s a good idea and that being buzzed is likely to make the ceremony way more enjoyable for 95% of everybody.
Post # 11
Thank you everyone it is always helpful to hear other opionions of people that are not associated with this. She was going to have a welcome drink for people as they arrive and wait for the ceremony to start. Except now I guess it will not be considered a Single welcome drink but a full hour of cocktails. I’m only paying for half the wedding and it still is her wedding I did not want to press her on this. Still not my choice to do this, then its not my wedding. Again thank you everyone 🙂
Post # 12
sunshine809: One of my daughters dilemas was how to word the invite so the average person knows what to except and whats going on. It will somehow be addressed in the invite. However knowing my family 🙂 I will be getting calls saying Whats Up with the Cocktail hour LOL!
Post # 13
acglandorf: Its his second marriage and they are not contributing not even for the rehersal dinner. Weddings are always tricky this way
Post # 14
I think it is the right way to do it. I never understood why people would keep people hungry at the ceremony and then invite them for food at cocktail hour and then dinner right away. It just doesnt make sense to me. Also, wouldnt it be better if people were late to cocktail hour rather than the ceremony? And people are alwys bound to be late. Seems perfectly logical to me.
Post # 15
I went to a wedding that did this and it was fantastic! But the bride’s family is Muslim, so there wasn’t any alcohol – they had passed appetizers and a smoothie bar.
Weddings are often a time when you see people that you don’t see often, so it was nice to have some time at the begining of the event to greet friends that you haven’t seen in a long time. Then they had a very short ceremony (the religious ceremony had been the day before with just immediate family) followed by dinner.
I don’t remember how it was worded on the invite, but it clearly said that there was food/drinks first, then the ceremony then dinner. In this case I’d call it “Welcome cocktails”