Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law and I are in somewhat of a disagreement about how much food we need to serve at our wedding and I could use some advice. We are having a cocktail reception, because my Fiance and I did not want a sit-down dinner (we will be attending 3 of those within a month of our own wedding). We are expecting people to have dinner before they come.
Our wedding ceremony is at 6:30 pm. Our cocktail style reception will start at 8 pm and we are expecting between 110-120 guests. We will be having passed hor d’ouvres, a mashed potato bar, a sautee station (chicken or beef/veggies/pasta or rice), a candy bar, wedding cake, and pizza (around 11).
Our original wedding site coordinator (who was awesome) took a job elsewhere. Now we are stuck with this women who doesn’t really seem to know what she is talking about. She is suggesting we have 5 hor d’ouvres per person. My Future Mother-In-Law thinks that is not enough and wants 10 per person.
I think this may be too much food and I am quite concerned about my budget. We are already $10 per person over budget. Adding 5 more pieces per person would put that to $20 per person over budget. Now my wonderful Future Mother-In-Law says she will pitch in for this cost, however it is also important me to have a wedding that is not out-of-control expensive…I mean we could have 2 sit down meals for what we would be paying.
So what do you all think? How many hor d’ouvres per person for a (4-hour) cocktail reception with stations?
Post # 3
@mrspoins: 5 sounds like it should be totally fine – especially with a mashed potato bar and a sautee station AND pizza later in the night! AND people are having dinner beforehand? Stick to your guns and go with 5!
Post # 4
5 passed pieces per person is just fine
Post # 5
Just wanted to say 5 sounds good. I doubt most people will eat before hand, but it still sounds like you have plenty of food with all the stations and everything!
Post # 6
I would say 6-8. I probably wouldn’t eat dinner before the ceremony since its at 630. 10 would be too much.
Post # 7
My daughter had one, and we had 8 passed appetizers, a raw bar (5 kinds of seafood), veggie & olive bar with cheeses, breads, crackers, dips and speads. We also had a mashed potato bar, a meat carving station, a pasta station, a salad station, and a dessert station with a coffee bar. Each table also had antipasto served family style with assorted breads. Wedding cake closer to the end.
We had almost no food leftover, and this was for 90 people. I think your Future Mother-In-Law might be right and that you should add a few more apps.
It would have been much cheaper to have a buffet or sit down dinner, as this was the most expensive option!
Post # 9
Hmm….looking at the poll people seem pretty split on this issue. No wonder I can’t get anyone in my life to agree on this. lol. We are going to a tasting tonight and will be trying about 10-15 pieces. This should help us decide how many we need…..I hope.