Post # 1
My partner & I are having a cocktail reception for our wedding next month, and I’m starting to worry that people might be… well, bored at it. It’s a 3-hour reception with lots of food, but just an ipod/cd playlist (no band or anything for dancing), and we’re not going to have a lot of speeches or any of the “typical” reception activities (eg, no bouquet toss). I don’t know if I’m being paranoid, but I’m just worried that people will be standing around, not sure of what to do… has anyone been to a boring cocktail reception? Any suggestions on what not to do, or things we should include to ensure the guests enjoy themselves?
Post # 3
We’re doing something similar to this. Our plan for folks is to have board and card games, actually. A lot of our friends are into it – everyone I’ve talked to about it is really excited about the concept. Of course, for a lot of the folks I’m friends with (and him too), we’ll often play games when we get together.
It does work best when you’ve got a bunch of folks who are familiar with the games already. We’re still working on the list of what we’ll be sure to have on hand, but we both kind of figure it’ll give folks something to do that fits with the kind of laid-back, mingling vibe we’re going for.
It also means that while we will have regular tables for seating, we’re not bothering with assigned seating, and the centerpieces will be small to non-existant, because they would interfere with getting a group of folks to play together. There will be a small dance area and the music we’re playing should be ok for some of the older folks to dance if they want, but we’re really aiming for a family reunion/chance to catch up with folks/have some fun instead of a full blown dance party. The cocktail food is great for this because it means nibbling on things and being able to move about easily and also a way around the 15 million dietary restrictions between our families.
I’m occasionally a little nervous about the idea but it’s a very us thing to do and everyone who would come knows us.
Post # 4
Do you have a slideshow? It’s something to think about but I understand it’s not for everybody. Games? like photo i spy? photo booth?
The most important thing is that the bride (you) & groom have tons of fun and socialize, laugh, mingle, with all their guests. As long as they have fun, the guests will have fun. That has been my experience with all types of weddings.
Post # 5
Could you do something like the shoe game or wedding bingo or cards with trivia questions about the two of you? Even if it’s not something that takes up a lot of time, it could be something that sparks conversation.
I’d never heard of the shoe game before WB, but it sounds really cute. Maybe someone can post an explanation – I’m scared I’m going to butcher it.
Post # 6
@bmore – I looked up Shoe Game on Weddingbee after seeing your post, and I found this: http://www.weddingbee.com/2007/08/21/the-shoe-game/
You’re right–that sounds super cute!
Post # 7
thankyou so much for the suggestions!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry too much about people being bored when alcohol is involved =) I’ve been to a wine and cheese party, with zero entertainment (other than wine, cheese, and good conversation) and had a great time. However, I would try to schedule a little entertainment to get people moving. A slide show, board games, newlywed game, etc. are all great ideas.