Post # 1
So we are having an evening wedding in my dads backyard and want to have a cocktail style reception rather than a full seated dinner. there are only about 50 to 60 people that will be in attendance. We do want to keep the ceremony and reception semi formal so everything will be passed around by servers except for the two food stations and bar.
That being said, we have thought about whether or not it is inconsiderate to not be serving a full meal and would really appreciate some input.
the general timeline is as follows:
6PM – ceremony
630PM – cocktail “hour” (light hors d’oeuvres and wine/beer/bride and groom cocktail)
7PM – first dance/toasts/fob & mog dances
730PM – heavier/hot hors d’oeuvres/apps are served, open bar is available as well as two food stations (poutine/taco bar, something like that)
8PM – cake cutting/dance floor opens
830PM – cake is served and dessert table available. hot hors d’oeuvres stop but the food stations mentioned earlier still available.
10PM – official end time. no send off. light clean up, change, etc.
1030PM – post reception cookout to all who would like to stay. burgers, hot dogs, chicken, etc. fire up the bonfire, family is bringing pot luck style sides, s’mores bar, music, self serve bar. can leave whenever they would like.
Post # 2
maarykaatee : Sounds like that timeline works and it sounds like you will have lots of food. My only suggestion is to make sure you have enough chairs for each butt. Honestly it sounds more like a buffet because of your stations.
is there a reason you want cocktail style?
Post # 3
Why would you start the cookout after 10? I’d bump it to 9:30… it’ll still be ready to eat after 10..
Post # 4
maarykaatee : you are serving a full meal – just in a different presentation! With an open bar people tend to get a little hungry toward the end up the night so I’d move up the cookout food to 9:30 as PP said. As for the seating there are two main considerations: (1) is there a band/dancing? (2) your crowd. Some people on the bee are aghast when I say I only had enough chairs for 2/3 of my guests to sit at the same time at my cocktail reception (plus some sofas) but even those were empty for most of the night. Most of my guests were under 45 and liked to party plus I had a 9-piece brass band rocking all night. Most people really only sat for a few minutes to take a dance floor breather and then jumped up again so a seat for every butt at the same time is not a hard and fast rule.
Post # 5
Sounds like plenty of food to me!
Post # 6
I think your cake cutting is too close to the heavy apps.