Post # 1
Okay – so my Fiance and I are looking at having about 130 people at the wedding, and Fiance is really attached to the idea of a cocktail style reception – a few big tables with regular seats for the older/less mobile folks and maybe the bride and groom, but then elbow tables, high tops, smaller eating tables to give a more club/cocktail/wandering/less structured feel to the reception.
This means there would be no assigned seating – which makes me a little nervous. Its fine for my bigger groups of friends, but I have a couple single friends who aren’t that close to anybody else at the reception and I’m worried that they would feel like they are at a high school dance. I’m also worried that we would have fewer chairs than people and some people might eat standing up. We are probably going to have a stations menu, so people will be getting up and sitting back down anyway.
Has anyone tried a less formal cocktail style reception? Or have you been to one? Does it work or was it total chaos?
Post # 3
I am so happy you posted this! I am worrying about the same exact thing! I keep hearing from others that wedding guests "like" the comfort of assigned seating but my Fiance is really really hoping we can have mostly cocktail tables with some other large rounds for older guests/those who feel like sitting.
I’ll be so interested to read your responses!
Post # 4
I am doing this at my wedding. We have seating for about 75% of the guests (large rounds) mixed with cocktail tables. We are having a few displays (veggies, fruit, cheese and crackers) and waiters passing around all the hot hors duerves (spelling?). We’re having a dessert display (with tea + coffee), the wedding cake, and an open bar all night.
I have always hated assigned seating at weddings. I think the cocktail tables forces people to mingle. Mainly your older guests will be sitting down. I imagine that once people start drinking and dancing, no one will be worried about where they should sit. In fact, after dinner, most people move from their assigned seats at a wedding anyways. Think of your reception as a super long cocktail hour. People will be fine. If you are not serving alcohol or having music, maybe think about something else to keep people entertained. I liked the trivia on the cocktail napkins that one of the Bee’s blogged about yesterday.