(Closed) Cocktails/Appetizers before ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I’m personally not a huge fan of this. Seeing the bride before the ceremony as a guest would be kind of like giving someone an unwrapped gift… does that make sense? I guess I just love seeing the bride for the first time at the ceremony!

Post # 4
2681 posts
Sugar bee

If you want to do this, go for it!  But I suggest you not attending, you really want your grand entrance to the ceremony and the WOW factor when everyone sees you for the first time.  We went to a wedding where they had a bar before the ceremony but not food. 

Post # 5
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve been to a few weddings where they did this.  One was a vow renewal, and was much more casual.  At a certain point, guests were asked to make their way to the ceremony, and the bride and groom lingered back, and still got their entrances.

It does create a more casual air.

Post # 6
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh, I love this idea!  Our venue serves cruditie and sparkling water…but I would love it if they would also serve champagne.  Alas, Mrs. Penguin and naangel55 made a very good point about the wow factor.    It’s not just about the dress (which you could eliminate by, as you suggested, changing clothes), but the hair and makeup as well. 

However…if you’re going more casual for the whole thing, it might just be lovely.

Clearly, I’m of no help!

Post # 8
4485 posts
Honey bee

I don’t see anything wrong with it and I think it would be fun to attend. I’ve never seen it in person but I have read on other sites about people doing this and it turning out great, and that the bride was even mingling after getting dressed for  the ceremony. But with so many traditionalist couples still around who don’t even take pictures before the ceremony per their photographer’s advice to cut out a gap, I can see how it wouldn’t work for some people. And really though, it isn’t any different at all from the couple taking pictures beforehand while guests are milling around waiting for the ceremony to start, which does happen. But if you feel having a cocktail hour beforehand would work for you, then do that.

While the officiant is legally able to stop the wedding if either the bride or groom is clearly intoxicated during the ceremony, most people won’t get anywhere near trashed enough before the ceremony for that to even be an issue. If you do serve alcohol, you will be required by most caterers/venues to serve substantial food at the same time.

Post # 9
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I agree with the “wow” factor. Keep them in suspense, but feed them, too! Maybe the bridal party can do a little mingling while you and your groom take couple shots.

Post # 11
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We thought about doing this until we had a scheduling thing with our band.

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