Post # 1
Which I think is totally awesome–he wants his sister, who has been by him his entire life, standing up with him during the ceremony. That’s largely epic in my world.
Now how do I word the freakin program? Do I put “Groomspeople” instead of “groomsmen”? Do I put “Best Man: Jacob br Groomsmaid: Jordan”? How the hayfield do I do this?
Post # 3
Update: Until I hear otherwise, I’m using “Bride’s Attendants” and “Groom’s Attendants” so there’s a kind of symmetry until somebody who knows SOMETHING about etiquette can get to me…
Post # 4
My friend stood up for her brother and I think they called her a Groomswoman or a Groomslady, lol. You could just put Groom’s Attendants to be gender neutral?
Post # 5
Attendants seems like the safest way to go!
Post # 6
Could you just put groom’s attendants and then only give a title to the best man?
Post # 7
Your fiance sounds like an amazing guy! My husband’s groom’s party was half men, half women. We called them, collectively, “groomspeople,” and we had a “best woman” and I suppose a “groomswoman,” although our program design meant that we just listed “Best Woman” and “Groomspeople” (and, conversely, “Maid of Honor” and “Bridesmaids”)
Hope this helps! If “groomswoman” or “groomsmaid” doesn’t work for you, come up with something else that does, or just stick with “groomsman” in a sort of unisex sense.
FYI, we had our groomsmen in charcoal pinstripe suits and our groomswomen in charcoal pinstripe skirt suits, and they looked totally coordinated and fabulous, while still feminine. (Plus they were really happy that they could use the suits for work on a regular basis — unlike a bridesmaid dress.)