Post # 1
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We moved in together a couple of months ago. It’s really effortless being with him so I know he’s the man for me. Anyway here is my issue. Last night he was out with the boys. He came back tipsy (but he didn’t drive so it’s all good). So right out of the blue he asks me if I have ever made a sex tape!! I instantly said “are you kidding me? Of course not. What kind of question is that?!” And that was it. We went to bed.
So my worry is this. Before I met my current man, I had a couple of (very) short term relationships that fizzled out. Well in one of them, the guy I guess kinda sweet talked me into making a tape with him. I regretted it the next day and completely regretted it when we broke up.
So does my current boyfriend know or did he just throw that out there? I don’t want to screw things up with him so I really need advise on how to handle this. Should I let sleeping dogs lie? Do I tell him? What’s the best way to approach this?
Post # 3
ahhh yikes. Well IF you’re going to admit it. Do it ASAP. Don’t let it linger any longer.
Is there ANY chance he knows the guy, or one of his friends knows him..??
Post # 4
@ErikaPurple: It’s prob a bit too much of a coincidence, unless you have friends in common that your ex could have leaked the tape too, but i really think it would be a good idea to fess up and tell him, if he does know, or did find out somehow it would be a billion times worse that you lied to him rather than be honest.
Post # 5
tell him. get it out there, but probably not when he’s drunk.
On the other hand, maybe he was questionning you because he wanted to make one (drunk men = silly men ahahaha)
Post # 6
@ErikaPurple: Tell him the truth as soon as possible. The last thing you want to do is to have him see the tape and realize that you lied to his face about it. Then he’ll start to wonder what else you’re lying about, leading to HUGE trust issues.
This could very easily end your relationship. Don’t let that happen, be proactive and take control of the situation.
Post # 7
It was probably just a coincidence but like others have said you should be honest about it.
Post # 8
@ErikaPurple: I agree that if you’re ever going to admit it now is the time. Because if you deny it and he finds out later you’re screwed. But honestly, if he is the man for you then you have to be honest with him, warts and all. If you are the one for him he will get over it.
Post # 9
Oh, honey. Sex tapes and the like are common talk amongst men (and women). He and the boys prob got to talking about how hot homemade porn is and he wanted to ask if you’ve done it. If you really think he should know, tell him. If he has weird jealousy issues, I guess maybe don’t, but it’s not like he has any right being upset about something you did before you met him.
Post # 10
So after a night out with the guys, he comes home, gets ready for bed and then out of the blue asks if you’ve ever made a sex tape?
Alarm bells should be going off. This is not a coincidence.
This is not a normal, random, out of the blue kind of question.
Post # 11
Tell the truth, including the part where you were so surprised at the question you automatically denied making a tape.
Chances are, though, he was just wanting to make a sex tape with you.