- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I’m having a really rough week. I’m torn, I’m sad, I’m confused, I’m frustrated, I’m going out of my mind!
I feel like I’m too far sucked in and there’s no going back, and it’s making me amazingly sad right now.
Both my FI and I are incredibly traditional people. It’s no secret in here, but we’re pretty conservative, timeless, and after our Nuptial Mass, our receptions in a gorgeous indoor venue with tree’s and a natural feel.
My first love, since 2007 is Justin Alexander 9552. I drove 3.5 hrs to try her on. I loved it, wasn’t sold 100% on the little flowers and beading, but in pics it’s not noticeable. I loved the Grace Kelly look/feel, I loved that it was timeless and in 20 years would still look good. I loved the way the train looked… I didn’t love the price tag and that is what held me back. It was over budget, it was $2700+ before alterations.
Recently, I got a PM from a girl who bought the dress (in my size too!) and changed her mind. She is selling it for $1600, less than what I paid for my dress.
I also love that it hides my hips, the ball gown, and how tiny if makes my waist
I love love love this look from the back!
My dress, Pronovias Megan. She’s fun, she really is. I do love the tulle, I love the tacking and draping, I love the satin, I really don’t like the poofs on the train. As we get into alterations, how they want to bustle it (the only way it CAN be bustled) and I really don’t like it, at all. When I tried her on, I felt like I wanted to run through a field in a Estee Lauder Beautiful commercial, which is a good thing! I do look elegant in it, It’s gorgeous, so was every other dress I tried on.
Of course, on SYTTD right now, a girl came back in because she couldn’t get the other dress out of her head, and after looking at the bustle realized it wasn’t the right dress…. FML!
And what I’m not a fan of, the back, especially when it’s bustled
If, back when I tried on JA9552, it was $1600, I WOULD HAVE BOUGHT IT IN A HEARTBEAT! Now, I have this dress sitting in my inbox, and I’m looking at the images of me in it, and I’m just thinking I made a huge mistake. I feel like JA fits “us” and the venue’s more so. I feel like I look GREAT in Megan, I know FI will think I look great, but I also think he’s going to be confused by the poofs and the tulle and be like, Wha? I think HE is also envisioning me in something like JA.
We’ve bought the Megan, a Hairpiece that won’t work with Justin, a belt that won’t work with Justin, Earrings that won’t work with justin (those were like $30 though on sale), I feel too deep and I’m just so confused.
My grandmother is really ill and it turns out that she has “too much money” and if she passes the gov. will take most of it. She in turn is “gifting” everyone in my family (kinds, grandkids, etc) a pretty decent amount (about 12,000). My parents are paying for the wedding, and the majority of the money I’m using to pay off the last of my debt… and we just bought a house so we can always use some there…. but I’m just so so so confused. I could always sell off everything and reimburse my parents… Not to mention, part of the reason I love JA is because it reminded me of my Grandmothers wedding dress which I always loved… and I know she won’t be able to come even if she’s still “with us” because of the distance.
I don’t think I choose the look I’ve envisioned for my whole life and am STILL picturing when I think of our wedding! I need help….. I love the way I look in both, of course, the reality is I should just KEEP my dress, Megan, but I can’t help but feel sad and mournful over not wearing Justin…
What would you do?