(Closed) Cold Feet

posted 7 years ago in January 2012
Post # 3
Member
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I did, for the same reason. But trust me, once you are married, and you wake up the next day looking at your brand spanking new husband, it will all go away! Its like you now belong to a secret club that only some people can be a part of. I was always terrifeid about the permanence of it, but once we were married, it was like any doubts or fears I had went away, and in its place was this warm fuzzy awesome feeling that no matter what, we were in this together, no turning back. We are a team, and getting married made it about a billion times better 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@GreenEyedMoon:  Your emotions are completely founded! I think everyone has that moment of, “Oh, shit”. Like you said, no escape route, it’s forever. Just try to think of how happy Fiance makes you, like you have been and it will slowly subside, I promise. When the big day comes around, you won’t be thinking about it, you’ll be so giddy you won’t be able to do much else but smile.

Post # 5
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1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

As long as all is well, then there is nothing to worry about. But with my second marriage, I got cold feet about 3 months before the wedding. I definitely should have trusted my instincts on that one – but there were “signs” that I should not have ignored that I attributed to cold feet at the time.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I had this happen to me a few days after we got engaged. I never wanted to get married. After doing hair for 10 years and listening to women tell me how bad marriage was and besides my sister I don’t know any happily married couples. Or if they are happy from what I have seen I didn’t think it was anything I wanted to do. So I was looking at my ring and I was like OMG woman what have you done. I was crabby and kind of evil to him for the rest of the day. I said something kind of snippy to him and the look on his face made me realize what I was doing. We had a long talk about how I felt and how he was feeling too.  He listened to every fear I had and understood where I was coming from and I got over it. Now when I think of forever with him I get all squishy and giggly. I just had mine early. lol

Post # 8
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1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MrsSl82be: What a lovely response–so encouraging for those of us on our way to the altar!

Post # 9
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@GreenEyedMoon: Ditto! I am totally getting the oh-shit-this-is-FOREVER jitters. Definitely some freak-outs.

But this thread has been lovely and encouraging. 🙂 I hope the jitters hurry up and melt into wedding bliss!

Post # 10
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I can’t wait to wake up the next day looking at your brand spanking new husband! I love how you put that.

I need to change my answer sort of. I didn’t have a cold feet moment but OMG I am going to live with a man moment. We have never lived together. We have only spent weeks ata time together. I was cleaning out a few drawers for him today and it ht me. Nights of sitting up all alone playing games or doing homework are about to be over. There will always be some grown up in my living space. I have a 6 year old I am used to her stalking me at all times. But a man none the less. Arrggghhh! Kinda freaked me out or a little bit. After reading this post I was thinking about it while trying to make room for him and it hit me. But i.m okay now. lol Now in the next 8 days I just have to figure out where we are going to put his stuff. 

Post # 11
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

No Jitters about marrying him just jitters about the whole ” all eyes on me all day” thing. Don’t feel super comfortable with the whole center or attention thing but just keep reminding myself this is allll family and friends

Post # 12
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

SO glad I found this. I’m a week out and going through these emotions…I was beginning to wonder about me. But I feel so much better seeing this!

Post # 13
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m not having any wedding jitters, but I definitely got them before he moved into my place in October. I realized that I would never – NEVER – have my own space again. I could never go into my bedroom and shut out the world. Now that he’s here, though, it’s spectacular.

Post # 14
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Right here! I have five months to go and they have already started. You hit the nail on the head…something about forever just freaks a girl out.

 

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