- 6 years ago
I would love people to comment if they’ve seen/been part of a simailar situation. My fiance have been together 8 1/2 years, have two little boys together and own a house together. We are getting amrried in less than two months. We have had a pretty good relationship but have been through some rough patches before. It’s also good to know that we work opposite schedules to avoid daycare so we don’t see each other enough and usually it feels like we’re single parents sometimes. Our children are 10 months and 3 years old and we both work full time at stressful jobs, so our days are long. 2 weeks ago my Fiance and I got into a fight about the usual things we fight about all into one big mess- chores, sleep and sex. He wound up saying “if you feel like this maybe we should postpone the wedding”. We did make up that day by reorganizing responsibilities but I have sensed him getting cold feet since then. I did expect some cold feet as everyone in his family has been divorced and I know he has a hard time with commitment. Also I know not much will change with the wedding as we already have the house/kids/responsibility. As I sense him being reserved I find myself questioning all that we have too. I love him and I know we can work through what life has to send our way but I don’t want him to marry me if he doesn’t feel great to be marrying me. Is this just cold feet? Have you experienced something like this before you got married even after a long time together. I don’t want to overreact to this fight just because it happened to fall before our wedding but I don’t want to marry someone who won’t love/appreciate me in whatever circumstance we’re in?