Post # 17
@asphodel: I “postponed” it 6 weeks before the wedding although I knew at the time that there was the possibility we might never get married if I did that. I was stalling on sending out the invitations (bad sign), and my anxiety was so great that I couldn’t sleep or eat. There were concrete reasons, however, that came up after we got engaged which put me in this state! It was definitely the most traumatizing event of my life….that and everything that led up to it and followed it. I still wish we got married even though it was so messed up 🙁
PS. “Know thyself” is the most important words I can think of for anyone who is thinking of marriage!
Post # 18
@countrygirl62312: Wow, this is incredibly nice to hear. I am glad you are so sure about everything.
I think some dress regrets (that are in the form that you describe) are in fact about relationship doubts–‘is this really the dress’, ‘can I find a better dress’, etc. It seems like a more convenient outlet.
Post # 19
No doubts, no cold feet. Everything’s been wonderful so far!
Post # 20
I had zero anxiety about marrying him, I had TONS of anxiety about the actual day…because I am not a good planner and was pretty much planning it on my own. I never once questioned if marrying HIM was what I wanted.
Post # 21
I think some worrying is natural for such a huge life evnt, and while men are more likely to have a freakout, I think everyone has doubts/fears to some extenet now and then before any major life change. Think about graduating, I’m sure many people were super excited, but at the same time scared of the next step in life.
I haven’t had any doubts as of yet, but I still have a year to go before the actual wedding, so that may change. My Fiance on the other hand, he already had his freakout. All big changes need time for adjustment and sometimes we just psych ourselves out.
Post # 22
I voted I had no doubts but am now unhappy. There are a lot of things that have been thrown at me that rationally I knew could happen, but it’s not really real and you don’t know how you’ll react until it actually happens, you know?
Post # 23
@fullyalive: It sounds to me like you did the right thing. It must be really hard to go through 🙁 Hugs to you.
Post # 24
I doubted a little about how we were handling it. By signing the papers legally here by checking the Self box and being insta-married (no officiant, no witnesses) and having an actual ceremony later. But I got over it bought an orchid to wear in my hair as we filled out the paperwork lol and called mom and dad and told them after. They were so happy for me but even happier that we are still having a ceremony!
Nothing feels too different after doing that so I know I made the right decision. We are happy and can’t wait to celebrate wtih family and friends next year.