- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
im brand new. just got engaged, roughly 3 weeks ago, the day after christmas. we have been dating for a little over 4 years. when i tried to bring up setting a date, he said to me “enjoy the engagement time.” and i googled it thinking what is there to enjoy? it seems more like an in-between time for me.
thats how i found this site. what i really need is some people to talk to who can be objective. obviously cant talk to his mom, she will alert him if she thinks im having doubts. cant talk to my mom, she’s miffed about the fact that ive moved to another state and would prefer i didnt marry him…she thinks i should be marrying a cowboy.
I PROMISE IM NOT YELLING, I CANT FIGURE OUT WHY MY PHONE WONT GO BACK TO LOWER CASE, PLEASE EXCUSE THAT. THE THING IS, HE IS A PREACHER. IVE KNOWN THIS, BUT I GUESS NOT BEING IN A “COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP” LIKE I AM NOW, POST ENGAGEMENT, I GUESS IT DIDNT EFFECT ME AS MUCH THEN. I LOVE THE FACT THAT HE LOVES THE LORD AND I ENJOY THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH FUN IT WILL BE WORKING BESIDE HIM IN MINISTRY, BUT SOME THINGS ARE STARTING TO WEAR ON ME. FOR EXAMPLE, I LIKE WATCHING HOUSE MD. HE HATES ALL THINGS MEDICAL BECAUSE HE SAYS IT GLORIFIES MAN AND MANS ABILITY TO HEAL RATHER THAN GODS ABILITY TO HEAL. UNDERSTOOD, BUT WHY CANT I WATCH THE SHOW? I WENT TO NURSING SCHOOL, IM INTERESTED IN THE MEDICAL FIELD. I KNOW THAT EVERYONE WILL PROBABLY SAY THAT I SHOULD DOUBLE THINK MARRYING HIM, BUT IM NOT SURE IF ITS SOMETHING THAT IS JUST BOTHERING ME BECAUSE OF THE STRESS OF PLANNING THE WEDDING OR IF ITS SOMETHING ELSE. I LOVE HIM, AND PRE-ENGAGEMENT, THIS WAS NEVER AN ISSUE? ANY COMMENTS, ADVICE, OR STORIES???