Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2016 - Skirball Cultural Center
We just started out wedding planning about a month ago. My fiance and I found a wedding venue that we both initially loved. We brought our families there to look at the venue and put down a deposit, when they started complaining how far it was and wasn’t as excited as we were. I started to get cold feet, is that normal? Should I look at more venues? It also wasn’t what I originally envisioned getting married in, I look at other dream venues, but it wasn’t as pretty or practical or affordable as what I saw in my mind. Is this normal?!? what should i do?!?! Did anyone feel that way and on their day felt totally fine?
Post # 2
I’m curious to see everyone’s answers since I’m currently stuck when it comes to choosing between two venues and worry I’ll regret going with the cheap one. In your case, it’s great that you brought your families along to check it out but in the end it’s your (you + FI) wedding and your decision to make, not theirs. Things like the venue being too far are relatively minor issues. Guess what? Your guests will all find a way to get there and get home regardless. If it’s a place you really like and it fits the budget (and your other “dream” venues simply aren’t affordable), go for it! But if you have other venues on your short list that you haven’t yet checked out, maybe give them a shot first before committing with that deposit.
Post # 3
My husband and I rented a barn-like venue for two days, which only cost $550! It was BEAUTIFUL – dark wood inside with beams that I could white string lights on, but shortly afterwards, I began to feel like I spent too much on the venue (our budget was $5000 for wedding ceremony + full dinner reception with DJ, photographer, and open bar for 75 guests). Which is absurd because I know that many people spend a LOT more on venues! Regardless, my husband reassured me that it’s perfect, and WOW, it was INCREDIBLE the day of our wedding! Our families decorated the day before the wedding, and they did an AMAZING job! I couldn’t believe how they put everything together and made my vision come true!
I never had a vision about my wedding until I got engaged, so I spent endless hours researching weddings online to get ideas. We only had a three-month long engagement (dated for 6 years though & had a short engagement due to our careers, which are causing us to move next month & we wanted the wedding to be in our hometown with our families & friends!), so I had to make decisions quickly. Honestly, it was perfect! We had a beautiful rustic, yet classy wedding, and I couldn’t be more happier! So I thought I felt venue regret before, and now I’m extremely thankful that we didn’t change our minds!
Also, I should probably add that I’m a weirdo, and I have a difficult time spending money to begin with. I track all of my finances like crazy, and to give you an idea about my craziness regarding finances: I wouldn’t even allow myself to purchase a $25 funny tank top on our honeymoon that my husband thought was perfect for me, even thought we definitely have the money for it! lol
Post # 4
You guys are the ones getting married, it’s your wedding, and both of you need to be happy and excited with the venue. Others can have their opinion but in the end it’s your decision. Yes, maybe it’s a bit further then they would like. But keep in mind that any venue you choose is going to have it’s pros and cons. You could choose another venue but maybe it’s smaller, more expensive, and doesn’t have (fill in the blank). No venue is going to be absolutely perfect. And no matter what you choose not everyone is going to agree with your choice 100%.
I think it’s normal to second guess big decisions, especially when family members didn’t have the reaction your were hoping for. When we choose our venue and put the deposit down, I started second guessing myself. Maybe the other venue was better,it had this and that, mom said this about our choice etc…. We just went with the venue we put the deposit on and it worked out great.
I would talk with your families and explain why you choose this venue. What it offered that other venues didn’t. Tell then that you and your Fiance really love it and this is what’s going to make you both happy. Even if your families have their objections, I’m sure they want you to have the wedding you want. Speak with them about their concerns about the distance. Maybe you guys can brianstorm and come up with some ideas to make that easier for your wedding guests? Unless, objections are major things like the buliding isn’t up to fire code, several guests have canes; are in wheelchairs; there a million steps and not all the guests will be able to get to the ceremony, they know from a close friend that they owners are shady and don’t deliver what they promise, etc.. It’s your decision. Trust your gut feelings about the venue, it will be fine. Couples know when something feel right.