(Closed) Cold Feet Already???

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It doesn’t seem like disliking a china pattern is really the same as having cold feet. My mom has some china that she loves that I dislike, so I understand just having strong taste. Do you have any other reasons to think he has cold feet?

Post # 4
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

What Miss BBQ said.  Do you have reason to think this is a symptom of something else?  I am really having trouble drawing a line between “my fiance doesn’t like my mom’s china pattern” and “my fiance has done a complete 180.”

Post # 5
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28 posts
Newbee

I don’t understand how not liking a china pattern = cold feet.

Maybe I’m missing something.

I think you’re just overthinking his honest opinion.

Post # 6
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My FH gets irritated when I go on, and on, and on, and on, and on about wedding planning. I know he doesn’t have cold feet. He doesn’t want to hear about the planning all the time. So, try not talking about the wedding for a while and see if that makes a difference πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmm… is this a “straw the broke the camel’s back” situation?

Not liking a China pattern = normal person with opinions

Not being willing to research and choose an alternative = normal guy not caring about China that much.

My husband doesn’t like “pattern”.  That’s right… he only likes solid coloured things with no texture.  Don’t sweat it, I’m sure this is in no way an illustration of him not wanting to marry you.

Post # 8
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Oddly enough I “compromised” on the pattern we chose. I dont hate it, but it was not my 1st , 2ns or 3rd choice, but he liked it so much I went with it. Backwards? maybe. But it worked for us. It doesnt mean I have cold feet. You may be missing details so let us know the rest of the story please.

Post # 9
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@SapphireSun: mine too! What the heck boys…

Post # 10
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1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m sure that he’s been getting a lot of crap from his super macho friends about having a ball and chain. I’m sure he’s feeling conflicted. Just give it time, I remember this allllll too well! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Maybe, maybe not.  I know, that is not an answer.  I think you need to have a “normal” night without wedding talk (or two) and then ask him what you asked us. Essentially, does he want to be married to you without the wedding details or is the being married piece stress him out. Only he can answer that. 

It sounds like you are making an effortto make it all work, but sometimes we forget how much we are focusing on the details that others dont care about.  I wish you the best of luck.

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