(Closed) Cold Feet… Jitters… ?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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898 posts
Busy bee

I go through this every few weeks with my Fiance. I get really stressed at work, and then come home to a filthy house and my Fiance scouring craigslist for vehicles that we don’t even have money to buy. What’s the point?

But i still love him, and even if I came home and found coffee cups in the bathroom and the trash overflowing every day, I wouldn’t want to wake up the next day without him.

I think we all have frustrating days, and sometimes we get so stressed that we rethink our choices. Being that you’re only days away, and very busy, I would think it was just the stress.

So even if he doesn’t get everything on the to-do list done, do you still love him? Even if he ditches plans to help his mom out with home improvement, can you swallow life without him? Those are some very serious questions, but I ask myself pretty often.

Post # 4
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773 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s natural in the days leading up to the wedding to look at your fiance doing something that would normally mildly irritate you and wonder "Can I seriously live with this forever?"  Honestly, though, this doesn’t seem like a "call off the wedding" situation.  He’s going to go to his mom before he goes to your mom.  Who knows? Maybe his mom was nagging him to death about those home improvements, and he just wanted her off his back.  

Post # 5
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

You’re totally stressed out. Your reactions are not exactly super-rational at this juncture. That’s okay!!

I think it’s sort of sweet he was over at his mom’s house. He’s taking care of her. I know you must be thinking, those home repairs can wait! But that’s not the point. He’s doing that probably to feel an emotional connection to her. Boys get jittery and sentimental about getting married too. It’s probably making him feel good to be doing these things for his mother to reaffirm their connection right as he’s about to make his committment to you. Don’t worry, it’s all going to be fine.

Post # 6
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3331 posts
Sugar bee

I think this seems like a totally normal reaction to a stressful situation. Honestly, I know lots of couples who had disagreements/stress during the days leading up to the wedding.  Your emotions are running high and you’re looking at every little detail with a critical eye.  I know there were times where I felt like my husband wasn’t helping me when I needed it. Honestly, a lot of the time, I think he just didn’t know what needed to be done, or how to help me.  I found that giving him specific requests helped keep him involved and kept my stress level down.

Take a deep breathe and relax.  It’s going to be great!

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