(Closed) Cold Feet, need help.

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee

First off, I just wanted to say I am sorry for the situation you are in and the feelings you are having. When I first read your post I got this immense sense of unhappiness. I wish I could talk to you face to face, but your writing sounds like your miserable. It sounds like you’re going through the motions of getting married because you’ve been together for six years and thats what’s expected. I kept waiting for you to mention even the slightest silver lining, but there wasn’t one. My biggest advice to you is for one, do not put this off any longer, if you are having legitimate feelings of doubt, they need to be addressed-and soon. Secondly, please sit down with your Fiance and have a serious heart to heart. Mention to him everything you posted here (gently). Tell him you love him but you need to talk things out. You may be surprised by what he says. The sex thing needs to be talked about as nicely as possible. When my Fiance first became intimate, I was very unhappy with our sex life because he and I had never made love to someone, we just had sex before. Sex with your soul mate is the best kind! With a lot of communication and love, we have an amazing life in the bedroom and it has improved other aspects of our lives together too. As far as your schooling goes, every marriage has its sacrifices and compromises, however you need to do some soul-searching and figure out how much compromise you’re willing to make in order to to support you both. I know I am basically stating the obvious here, but none of the problems mentioned will be solved if left unsaid. Sorry this was so long btw! I wish you luck hun.

Post # 4
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny:I agree 100% with everything you said.

JGUNDY, I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Post # 5
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wonder what she ended up doing…

Post # 6
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Update? We’d all love to hear from you at the Hive!

Post # 7
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jgundy:  are you ok now? What happened?

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