(Closed) Cold Feet or Regret?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What do you think is causing this?
    Regret : (14 votes)
    74 %
    Cold Feet : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Other (please explain) : (3 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    This is a really big issue I don’t think we can analyze for you. You should definitely talk to your Fiance about it and maybe ask him point blank if he still wants to marry you. Obviously what he’s doing/not donig is making you upset, so it’s not a good idea to continue on towards marriage if this is how things will remain.

    Post # 4
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It could be depression, honestly. I think you should try and analyze this from a standpoint that doesn’t necessarily involve the wedding. It doesn’t sound like you guys are communicating about this, and I think that’s a huge deal – counseling needs to happen! And some really frank/loving discussions!

    Post # 5
    Member
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    this is for every person on here that has voted and hasn’t written an explanation…

    it really is difficult to judge this situation, but from the very basic surface, it seems like something that will cause you more harm and resentment than good. 🙁 

    i’m sorry and i wish you all the best.

    Post # 6
    Member
    14441 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree.  You need to sit down and talk to him.  I saw you said you just had a child (and you’re fairly young according to your profile), its possible he freaked out and asked you to marry him cause he got you pregnant (espeically the way you suggest hes could be regretting ‘sticking around’)… and now he’s freaking out form this major life change thats becoming more and more real as the wedding planning picks up?  He may just be nervous, but is trying to wrap his head around these changes and deal with it if it came sooner than he had planned and expected.  Talk it out with him.  Maybe he can be calmed and man up to these chances, or may he just can’t handle all this, in which case, it would not be the best situation to be in for you or your child.  good luck!

    Post # 7
    Member
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @bride21: I don’t think any of us can answer this for you. I think you should talk to him. Maybe you need to get into couples therapy ASAP before the wedding date.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree with the other Bees that you need to talk to him and figure out what’s going on. Without any of us knowing the complete situation (as only you and your Fiance do) it’s impossible for us to know what’s going on. There’s a chance he doesn’t even know what’s going on subconsiously. That’s why you two need to have a real heart to heart and lay all your cards on the table and get to the bottom of it.

    Post # 10
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    2289 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I didn’t vote since I agree that this isn’t a voting thing. You definitely need to have a very straightforward conversation and I highly recommend couseling to help you do that. From what you’ve said, you may want to take marriage off the table for a little while to focus on the relationship.

    Post # 12
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I had been thinking about you and I hope you talked to your SO.  I hope the best for you and your son.

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