(Closed) Cold feet, perhaps?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think it is cold feet. I think you are just overloaded with stress. My dad quit dipping, and it lasted all of two weeks because my mom couldn’t take it anymore. He and my mom, who never fight, went at it like crazy. My dad was really difficult to be around when he quit.

It is a very, very hard habit to break, and although I give props to your Fiance for quitting (because it is so disgusting imo), he really did pick a bad time, especially quitting cold turkey. I think with him being moody, it is really adding stress onto you because you both are saying hurtful things you probably don’t mean. You’re saying them our of stress and frusteration.

Only for 5 minutes the night before my wedding did I have a mini-moment of panic that I was spending the rest of my life with someone. It left as fast as it came. That was a case of cold feet.

Unless you’re FOR SURE that there aren’t any other problems in the relationship other than your FI’s new moodiness due to quitting dipping, then I think your relationship is fine, and you’re just stressed. You will be happy once things get easier for him.

Post # 5
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Keep your chin up girl!  This is just an overload of stress talking.  The timing sucks for his quitting dipping, but I hope he sticks with it.  Try to take some extra time for yourself in these next 8 days — things will get better. 

Post # 6
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Madi.So.Excited:  Hi Date twin! I can’t answer your question if it’s normal or not (what is normal anyways?!) but I will say you are not alone! 🙂  It’s a huge event and normal to question things.  As long as you know deep down you do truly love him and want to make it through the bad times, then I think you’ll be okay and just having a little case of cold feet (of course the fighting does not help whatsoever). 

I don’t really have any good advice, but hopefully you’re reassured to hear you aren’t alone! Trust that the decision you made when he proposed was the right one (even if it doesn’t always feel like it!)

Post # 7
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2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely think this is just stress!! He could have picked a better time for this, absolutely, but I’m sure things are going to be alright. Try to remove yourself from everything for a bit, relax, grab a coffee, get a pedicure. Maybe giving yourself just an hour of “you” time will help clear up your head and make things a little easier for you 🙂

Post # 8
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Date twin!  I’m stressed too…and Fiance and I get along delightfully….except for the last few weeks.  Money and family and wedding stuff constantly, it definitely has taken its toll.  Our house is cluttered, we have no groceries, I’m worried about silly stuff like candles and trail mix for the Out of Town bags.  I dont’ feel like myself to be honest. UGH!

 

Hang in there…I suspect 3/24 you’ll feel like a whole new woman!

 

 

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