(Closed) Cold feet:0(

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Cold feet happens with a lot of couples, but having a child as well as alcoholism in the picture definitely makes it tougher to figure these sort of things out. Have you two had any premarital counseling? I know the idea of therapy turns some people off, but it sounds like the two of you could really benefit from it. It’s great that you’ve been sober for so long, I’d just hate for there to be any relapses or someone to walk away from the relationship (even distancing, which he is doing, is bad) simply out of fear. Had he said specifically what he is afraid of? It sounds like since you’re living together, marriage wouldn’t change your day to day life too much. Is he afraid of being a father, that he won’t live up to expectations (yours or his), just the unknown in general, etc.?

Post # 5
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Frown I don’t have much to say except i am really sorry the situation is like this. You two have gone trough a lot and deserve to be happy. I agree with courtney. Maybe you should have some councelling? I wish you two the best..i am really sad for you..

Post # 7
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sometimes with the stress of the wedding and everything going on, I sometimes get cold feet and wonder if I am doing the right thing. Marriage is a huge change and commitment and since I don’t believe in divorce, it is a decision that will affect the rest of my life. However, everytime I take a second to sit and think about the man that I want and how happy my Fiance makes me, I realize that there is nothing to worry about and there is nothing that would make me happier than being with him. Sometimes when you get wrapped up in everything in life and the stress of the wedding, you can really focus on your negative feelings surrounding the wedding. Everyone needs to take some time out and really think about why you decided to get married in the first place and it will take any doubt out of your mind. It sounds like that was the same situation with your Fiance. It sounds like he took time out to really think about marrying you and that’s why he called you with so many nice things to say. Just keep that in mind….

Post # 9
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1330 posts
Bumble bee

@CodijoC:  OMG I just wrote a post about the exact same issue. How are you doing? I am not much of a support right now, but you are not alone. I don’t know what to do about this either. Read my post if you have a sec. Let me know what happens….my Fiance didn’t say he had cold feet…or nerves. Now I am wondering. 🙁

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