- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Thanks for giving me a read as I need some help. My fiance and I have been unofficially engaged for a few years now. We both asked each other one night if we would marry one another. It was lovely and simple. A few years have passed and only just 3 months ago have we started planning the wedding. I must say that she has been planning most of the event.
When we started we had an acceptable amount of money, but still not enough for me to be comfortable in planning an event. At one point I suggested that we wait a year, and she got very upset. We are very open about most things and we talked it out. Eventually we decided to move forward and continue in the process.
The brand of fighting in the past months has really made me feel awful. We have two different schools of thought when it comes to money. She feels that if we plan it with the meager funds we have now, we will find a way to make it happen. I’m the type who doesn’t like to spend until I have it all in the bank.
In the past month my pay has been cut by 1/3rd and our reserves are running out. She quit her job a few months ago as it just wasn’t working out. We discussed it and we both agreed that she should find a different job. She hasn’t and my single flow of income into the household has really been stressing me out.
I go through times when I just want to call it off and postpone, but she is more optimistic than me. She has a few things lined up to help us make more money. I’m confident in her, but until more money starts to roll in, I feel doomed to feel uneasy about not being able to pay the rent and not having the balance due on the wedding when the day arrives.
How should I go about dealing with……… all of this.
We go tomorrow to sign papers and give the deposit on our venue. I’m feeling better than I did this morning, but fear is still looming. I found this site when I googled cold financial feet, and thought I could find some input. The only solace I found today were sites suggesting wedding insurance. (Just in case something happens….. Cancelation because were broke…. reclaiming the deposit)
I’d appreciate any input. I’ve never had cold feet about being with my fiance. I love her. She loves me. Our union is simple and lovely. I’m aware that at some point I may get nervous about the day and other things, but those things are not my problem at this moment. These cold financial feet are really killing me, and I need some advice on how to work through these things.