Post # 92
Speaking of this, poor R came home the other night and said “people are MEAN about college engagements!” – I guess someone in his Bio lab lectured him about the divorce rate of young marriages, haha. He’s such an easygoing person that it took him by surprise.
Post # 93
LOL lilyfaith. That’s funny, but sad. Nosy lab partner.
The reaction of strangers at my college who find out we’re engaged is generally total shock haha. They don’t even have the ability to lecture us. They’re just like, “Wait, what? Whoa.” Our school is called a “Quaker Matchbox” because a disproportionate number of grads end up marrying each other…but not, usually, for years after graduation (oh, and Quakers founded it). It’s not like they aren’t planning their lives and futures around each other from graduation and having all the dedication of the typical engaged couple, it’s just that it’s so abnormal for academics and professionals (which pretty much eeeevery student at this school turns into) in this region to marry young that it apparently seems like it isn’t even an option at 21/22. Whatever. Works for us.
Post # 94
Depends…one person I went to school with I mean i really don’t know, but she dated guy for couple months, got engaged, married, and is pregnant. They haven’t celebrated their one year yet. She was going to go to grad school, but the baby is coming soon so those plans are gone. I only know one other girl to be engaged. These girls said they wanted to be in he “real world” having a career etc etc. and at the end of the day their stay at home moms (nothing wrong with that obviously) The girls I know have gotten married in a rush, and may have been going out for a while with their guy, but not engaged..they bipassed that lol I def. want to have a “grown up wedding” doesn’t matter how much it costs thats the least of it, but I don’t want a quick wedding like that.
Post # 95
im 24 my fiance is 25 and im in university 🙂 Fiance works for a bank’s head office, but we are planning on waiting till i graduate in order to get married. Being engaged is sooo distracting while in school, deffinately a good distraction though. Wedding plans are great at helping to procrastinate doing homework or studying 😛
Post # 96
Ahhh, yes! I live in Alabama and Fiance is from Georgia. He just graduated in December, but he proposed last september. I will graduate in August and we will be getting married about 2 weeks after that! I personally agree that it is a big time southern thing (not to say it doesnt happen often elsewhere) its definitely disproportionate when you compare say New York with Birmingham. ALL of my friends are either engaged, newly married, or have babies! It’s really crazy how many girls are engaged in my classes.
Getting engaged when we did and having the wedding right after my graduation just worked best for US. Fiance didnt wanna do the awkward “what do we do now” when he graduated in December so he made it official!
anyways, 108 days left! woo hoo!
Post # 97
Im engaged and in college :o) I’m kind of a professional student though lol I’ve been in school for 4 years now and I’m still working on my bachelors… baby steps 😉
Post # 98
Well I am in GA and out of my best college girls I would say that half of us are engaged/married and the other half are single and committed to staying that way. This is compounded by the fact that it is a military town, three of the last three engagements have taken place right before or during deployment. If deployment won’t get a ring on your finger nothing will, lol.
I had this discussion with a friend the other day and I said it was because we are more traditional in the bible belt ( still not cool to shack up) but she thought it was because it is cheaper to get married and buy a house, so people don’t feel like they need to wait as long.
Post # 99
I’m currently 23, and I got engaged at 22 shortly after graduating from undergrad. I didn’t get too many comments about being too young from people I knew because the fiance & I had been together for about 4 years when we got engaged. I think people expected it. My mom was the only one who was a little weirded out by my engagement. She worries that I won’t “keep my priorities straight”, or that I’ll give up things I really want to accomplish just because I’m getting married at a slightly younger age. That’s totally not true, but I guess moms worry.
I’m currently working on undergrad pre-requisites to go to grad school in a field other than what I have my first degree in, and I don’t see any other engagement rings in my classes (except on the other non-traditional students, the vast majority of them being a good 10-20 years older than me). I guess it’s a regional thing (I’m currently living in Colorado).