Post # 137
Please at least get an education and a qualification. There is a member of my DH’s family who dropped out of college to get married, completely dependent on her husband’s income and they have two children together. Well, life happened and he was severely injured from work and is now bedridden and unable to work. She has no qualification to get a job decent enough to hold up a family as well as take care of her ill husband 24/7
Don’t make that mistake. Life throws curveballs when you least expect it.
7 years ago, I was 17, and I thought I was the shit. Well, I look back now and laugh. I met my now DH my first year of college, and was not single throughout college life, but it was the best time of my life. I even want to go back just to have that ease of meeting new people back. but alas, work life beckons 😛
Post # 138
I just read through this entire thread (wow I have too much time on my hands), and I must say I am so glad you went away to school!
And this coming from someone who absolutely without a doubt hated her first year.
Yet, I wouldn’t trade the experience. I was a Christian when I started my first year and ended up an atheist by the end. Talk about a life change! My whole belief system went away, and trust me, I did not see that coming. And well, I just plain learned how to live on my own more. Not that I didn’t already know how to clean and cook, etc. But it was so good just to be on my own, even if it was in the dorms.
Now, my second year was much, much better, as I moved out of the dorms and into an apartment with a friend. Again, I grew up so much more. I learned to pay my own bills and balance my own budget. I got a job working with kids, which gave me real relevant experience for my career as a teacher. And the third year away at school is also good!
I cannot imagine not having at least a couple years just to be independent and on my own. I’m still getting married young (I’ll be 21, but he’ll be 29), but at least I had those few years where I wasn’t living with mom and dad and I wasn’t living with a husband. I wish I could have more time even, but alas, I have an international relationship and immigration to deal with.
So keep giving college a try. Finish out the year, and stick around for at least another one. It gets better!
Post # 140
Well just a few things…we’ve actually been in an LDR the entire time lol. So I definitely know how that is.
AND I’M DEFINITELY NOT DROPPING OUT. Lol. I definitely want to make that clear…no way, ever. I want to be a teacher and I need college for that. I simply planned on getting married and continuing college with him.
I know I have been here a short while, but I don’t really like campus life. Not the people or anything of the sort, I’m just more of a home body and don’t do much on campus-it’s too busy for me, I think.
I think I could still mature a bit, but who I am in the sense of my beliefs and personality is pretty set. Not that I won’t change at all…but I’m very confident in those things. I know it doesn’t seem all that smart, but I am definitely looking forward to getting married. It really just seems best for me and my life. I did go away, for at least this semester, to discover what I might have missed. But I just really don’t like it, in general. I also discovered that I LOVE online classes more than attending classes, goodness haha. I just don’t really know if this experience is for everyone. I guess I was pretty set in my ways when asking these questions, but I still appreciate the responses. I can already tell I’m a little more mature than when I originally posted months back. But I still feel I am the same person, and I love and appreciate my fiance even more!
Although I know it is against the advice of many of you, I do really feel it is best for me and my fiance to marry sooner than later. I appreciate the input and advice, though. I’m still glad I asked.
Post # 141
I also wanted to apologize to anyone from beforehand-I hope I never came off as ignorant or rude. That was never my intentions to anyone who was kind enough to respond to this and my other questions.
I truly just wanted advice and help based on others’ experiences. I put my questions here because I was assuming people could give first-hand advice, which many of you did. Thank you! They were things I could handle on my own, but it was nice to have others, unbiased, give opinions. So thank you!
I probably did come off as naive and ignorant, though, considering I am still deciding to get married this young. I didn’t ignore your comments, though-I read and thought over every comment posted, I just still feel this is best for my life. I appreciate you all, though, for your advice, care, and concern!